He is married. Yet he says he loves me more than anything else. He wants forever with me! And the only way he says we gonna get that is we share a baby together. He says he cant live without me. I don’t think he is ready to leave the wife and neither am I ready to be a home wrecker. It is only that he is too sweet and am sorry to admit but he is all that I have ever wanted in a man.
I know some of you are ready to brand me a home wrecker and all that but can someone give me a piece of mind that doesn’t involve insults. Thank you.
2007-08-21 21:13:18 · 23 answers · asked by Essie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I won't brand you a home wrecker or judge you but you should be very cautious. I know this man to you feels like everything you want in a man but he isn't acting like a 'real' man...meaning, a real man is committed to his wife. If the relationship is over with his wife...a real man finishes something first before starting something else. A real man does not want a baby with another woman as a means of escape or as some kind of definite attachment forever with you. I'm sure you both care about each other but love is about 100% commitment and he is not giving you that. I would definitely not have a baby with him until he is free to be a proper partner to you, and father to your child, without the ongoing love triangle. Good luck Hon and if there are hard times ahead, I hope you get through them OK.
2007-08-23 02:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lollypop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he is still married and is not ready to leave his wife please don't bring an innocent child into the middle of this love triangle. Ask yourself this if he says the can't live without you then why hasn't he gotten a divorce why are you still the other woman. Why does he tell you the only reason he will be with you forever is if you have a child with him. I suggest you give him an ultimatum no matter how much you care about him he is another woman's man and was never yours to begin. Don't make the mistake of bringing a child into the world and you are not in a committed relationship. You can get pregnant and at the end he might still stay with his wife there is no guarantee.
2007-08-22 06:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by MZ. Latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand falling in love with a married man - but you both need to wait until you can give a new baby a stable home. If he is not ready to leave he is not ready to fully commit to you or a baby. Until he leaves, you should be more firm in your boundaries.
The plain and simple fact here is that he doesn't fully love you - if he did he wouldn't put you in this situation.
The chances are here he loves you as much as he loved his own wife once and look how well that turned out for her!
BTW - you say you aren't ready to be a home wrecker? When is a good time for that anyway?
2007-08-22 04:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok U having a baby with him insures him that u will never leave. That might not be true for u but in his head i can bet my live that is the whole point. And what makes u think you are not a home wrecker now?
2007-08-22 12:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont have to insult you , you do enough of that yourself every time you see your face in a mirror and know what your doing is wrong.
He doesnt love you , he isnt going to leave his wife for you but damn he must want to pay child support and explain that to his wife hey hmmmm.
The simple fact he is everything you ever wanted in a man you say?
So your dream was to grow up marry a man who will cheat on you and beg other women to have his babies while staying and using you emotionally? gee maybe I just didnt aim high enough when I got married.
Grow up , get some self respect about you and leave the loser to his wife I feel sorry for her seriously the poor thing and what ever you do , DONT have a baby that is selfish , wrong and pathetic.
A child shouldnt be born into anything like this they didnt ask to be known as the ba*tard child of a woman capable of using another woman's husband for her own pleasure.I can not believe you'd ask this or consider it .
Your not getting permission off me to go ahead and ruin a unborn child's life or future.
2007-08-22 04:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, if u truly love him and he loves you, he must leave his wife because its only respectful towards this mans family, and also think of the baby how would it feel knowing that his daddy had him while he was in another mariage. and im sorry to say this but the only fact that you love him already makes you a home wrecker.. but if he truely loves you he has to leave his wife.. you cant build a new family if he already has one.
if u do love each other everything will be fine
i am proof
my dad was married and he had 3 kids but he married just because my big brother was on the way and he didnt want her to abort... but after years he was tired of being in a relationship of no love and also he had met my mother and had fallen in love but i was born only after a divorce and a mariage..
at first it ws hard for my daddy and mom but now everything is fine just as it has been for a long time... anyways second mariages have a 90% success rate.. or was it 99...idk but they last
2007-08-22 04:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by stellina 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK, please leave him. Not EASY, but you have to do it. Don't be afraid of CHANGES. There are still lots of guys out there. If you have a baby, all things will get WORSE. BELIEVE ME, it is SERIOUS. For the sake of the baby, think of a way for the born baby, she/he will not have a lovely life, don't have father's LOVE. And think of something very BAD will happen, so you can MAKE a RIGHT DECISION for your whole LIFE. REMEMBER Life is only ONCE, make a RIGHT CHOICE, then your LIFE will be SO BLESSED. Believe in GOD, He will give u POWER to ACT WISE.
2007-08-22 04:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by anwar.tirta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you wil be the one that will end up getting hurt in the deal. He just wants you to have permanent ties to him. Once she finds out, that he is having an affair, she is going to take him for everything he owns, and you will be left struggling to support a child by yourself. Don't put yourself in that position. He is really not that sweet. That is how guys get control over you.
2007-08-22 04:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three things for you.
One even if both of you are true in your intentions, you will be a 'home wrecker' if you do that.
Second, if you think he is faithfully in love with you, you will repent for it as one who is cheating on his own wife won't be 'non cheating' to you, too.
Third, are you actually in ardent need of a baby?
2007-08-22 04:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by sv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's married...
If he wants to share forever with you, then he needs to prove it by ending his marriage in a respectful manner.
Consider how he's treating his wife, now...What if he does the same to you in the end?
You should examine his motives...
And don't have a baby with someone who's married. A few years down the line, you'll regret having it with someone like him.
2007-08-22 04:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋