How do i hand the stress associated with losing a person you love and how do lovingly bring up my son alone
2007-08-21 21:10:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It will be tough, but file for child support and alimony. Make him pay for the years that he neglected you. You will be fine. Just don't fight in front of the children.
2007-08-21 21:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello dear
Have you ask yourself seriously what has gone wrong with you that your husband is now looking outside?? Is this a new habit, then check out what could be wrong from within. Don't only focus on his faults alone.........or has this habit always been from the beginning of your marriage? if yes, then why are you complaining now?
Anyway, my point is you should also look within yourself too to be sure you're not the one pushing him outside. So many times we women push our husbands to the wall and then sit back to criticize. How have you change from that sweet woman he married? Have you suddenly become a negative person, who always complain and make the husband feel he's a failure? How much do you care for his needs? or you are now using sex as a weapon? hope not
If you really love your husband, then i guess divorce won't be an option. They is no marriage without a problem and there's no problem without a solution. A perfect marriage is not one without problems but one that knows how to handle problems/difficulties. No cross, no crown!
Remember being married is a status but being a wife is a quality. A weakness in a partner is not a disqualification for marriage but instead a reason for marriage - that's why we need each other for. None is perfect after all. What about your vows..........for better or worse!
I understand being cheated is painful, but things can still be put right.....i'm wandering how come you're choosing to accept defeat and allow another woman take over your husband. hope you think about that/
All the best
2007-08-21 23:11:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to love yourself first before you can trully love him. He is taking advantage of the fact that you have always stood by him every time he has an affair and will keep doing it unless you take control. Would you want your son to grow up and think its right to cheat on his partner just coz his mum didn't do the right thing. Your husband is not just risking your relationship with him but your health too. How would you feel if you discovered that you had an STI from him? By staying with him you're risking too much. He needs to shape up or ship out but if i were you id get my son and get out of there as fast as my legs can carry me.
2007-08-21 21:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by ladyinred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which is more important to you? I understand the hurt, but your son needs you. Put the trash out and tell him to leave you alone. It may be a bitter battle, but dont believe the old " I'll change" routine. The sooner you get out, the sooner you will heal as well as your son. God be with you.
2007-08-21 21:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bill P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave!!! and learn to teach your son the respect and love that he deserves. the only way for him (husband)to realize your existence is to be not around him.
2007-08-21 21:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by netz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on my dear, u can't live with a cheater, he doesn't respect u , its dangerous playing with cheater rather play with monkies
2007-08-21 21:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tyra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋