I recently lost my virginity to a guy who I've known for a while now. I guess you can say he's my friend. My mom knows him, and our mothers are acquainted with one another, but they don't talk. I guess what I'm trying to ask is should I tell my mom that I lost it to him? Honestly, I want to do it again & so does he, but he's out of condoms. I've been trying to find a way to get some without her knowing. Something keeps telling me to tell her, but I don't to get in trouble.
2007-08-21 20:44:58 · 33 answers · asked by ~*~honestly_4real~*~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
FYI:
im 14 yrs. going 2 9th grade. and another reason y i dont wanna tell her is cuz i did it while she was @ work & i snuck out of the house & he was here 2. i'm not supposed 2 go outside (besides walking my dog), answer the door, or let anybody in. so i'll get in even MORE trouble. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
2007-08-23 02:59:23 · update #1
Telling her or not wont make your vitginity come back. Hopefully you don't become another American statistic of girls who get pregnant before they learn Geometry.
2007-08-21 20:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You really should tell her. It is far better to keep an open and honest relationship with your parents than it is to keep secrets.
Trust me, she will probably be a little upset, but she will be even more upset if she has to find out from someone else.
It also makes you look more responsible and mature if you go to her and tell her you need to talk.
As a parent myself, I know that all your mother wants is for you to be safe. She wants you to tell her these thing so she can help you. If you keep it a secret, your mother will feel helpless, like she has failed as a parent. This will only distroy any kind of good relationship you already have with her.
Also, get more condoms, and don't do anything stupid like have unprotected sex. Trust me, you don't want to be a teen mother, it sucks.
Tell your mother. It's the adult thing to do.
2007-08-21 20:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by GoldfishPond 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
OK, first of all, condoms are what, a couple of bucks, and he's OUT? Have him skip a Happy Meal and spend a few dollars. It sounds to me like he's trying to lie you into doing it without any protection to me.
I don't know your mom so I can't say if you'd get into trouble, but I always say honesty is a good way to approach things. Sooner or later your mom will find out and sooner is better than later.
Good luck!
2007-08-22 02:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure you should talk to your Mom about it..
It's your conscience that is telling you to do what is right, even though my belief tells me that having sex outside of marriage is wrong...It's too late for you to change that now, but won't you consider your future before you do it again?
Consider if you get P.G what will happen to your child?
If you get a STD how will it effect your health, and possibility to have children?
What about your future husband?...Do you really want to give him seconds?
What about your virtue? Do you want to lose it for immediate gratification?....
And last but not least, what about your Mom...do you think she will condone your having sex with this boy, and supply you with the tools you need not to get PG?...
I feel really bad for you, I am going to say a prayer for you to rethink what you've done, and hopefully you will make new choices for yourself, and your "friend"...
2007-08-21 20:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Call me-C-4-Curious- 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on your age. How adolescent are you?
If you go to the drugstore, they're hanging on hooks. Just buy some...or do you not have the $$?
Telling mom is the 'I'm a lady now' type of thing to do. Just make certain of how she feels about that, first.
It would be better for you to 'save it,' ya know. Just don't have UNprotected sex. It's way too risky. What would you do if you got pregnant? I don't think mom is ready to handle a baby from her baby.
2007-08-21 20:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by chole_24 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well im in the same situation. my mum doesnt like my boyfriend and she'll probably ignore me for a while because i'd lost it but i havent brought up enough guts to tell her and now ive done it ive missed my period and im freaking out
btw can someone help me by leaving an aussie website because we dont have planned parenthood in australia
2007-08-24 00:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by lizzle sizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing a piece of skin and a few drops of blood is no great deal.
But watch out...you could get pregnant if you have unprotected sex several times.
Ask your boyfriend to consider the option of castration.
2007-08-22 03:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you having to go buy the condoms tell him to be a man and go and get them himself but im glad your using protection though but if you have an open relationship with your mum then i don't see why not but they already know that you have its just a mothers instinct good luck and don't get pregnant at a young age its not worth the worry or the stress have a life first
2007-08-21 21:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by vicky_vicstar 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no parent wants to know that their child is sexually active, but they do want them to be safe. Depending on your age, you should tell your mom you are ready to be prepared to be sexually active. That means the STD, Birth control talk. IF she simply refuses to listen you can go to your local health department or planned parenthood for free condoms. AND you can buy them without ID in any drugstore. Just be sure that you are ready for the responsibilty of sex, cause you can do everything in your power to be protected and still get pregnant or a STD. Also once you are sexually active you need to take your health into your hands and get a bi-yearly STD check
2007-08-21 20:51:00 · answer #9 · answered by robbedbyafish 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Planned parent hood gives out condoms and birth control for free... and without you having to tell your parents.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
If that's not an option for you... then yes you should tell your mom. You would rather be grounded for a few days then get pregnant or some strange STD.
Please stay safe.
2007-08-21 20:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by babydragonspawn 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it's a bad idea to tell ur mom hun. I made that mistake and my parents disowned me. Unless u feel really guilty about, then tell her, but otherwise don't. u sound like u have a good head on ur shoulders, do wut u think is best. If u wanna have sex with him again, tell him to get the condoms so ur mom won't find out. or have a friend get them for you. Jus be care ful hun. Good luck
2007-08-21 20:54:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋