Soulmate-what is it?

Question

Is it possible that husband and wife can share any other relation in which they feel comfortable and better then being husband and wife ,if so what is the best relation they can share,i am asking in case of arranged marriages,where due to culture and family respect they have to stay together.as married but dont feel like being made for each other

Answer 1

you can have a soulmate and not have it be your mate. A soul mate is someone who gets you and you get them without even needing words. It is someone you know to call at that moment because they are on the verge of tears....even though you live states apart. I am with the love of my life, but my soul mate is my best friend

Answer 2

Husband and wife is a designation, a job. it is made of rules. rules must be obeyed. if the spouse is stepping out of the rule book, the role to be played is broken. It is then given a different meaning. but do not care about all these. erase the husband - wife feeling and become friends. then both of you are free to do anything, that comes under the rule book of friendship. you have to be discreet in matters like these.

Answer 3

Bible... psh... is that the only answer 90% of these people have for anybody? Read the bible? Give your life to Jesus? Blah blah blah? How about an original thought, for once. How about living based on logic, reason, wisdom, and experience, rather than by what a book says? I have nothing against faith or anything like that; if you believe in the word of the bible, that's fine. But remember -- just as science does not have an answer for everything, neither does an ancient religious manuscript. The really sad part is that someone will probably vote the "bible" response as a "best answer". I could easily have a ridiculously high "best answer" rate by just going around and answering every question with some kind of biblical quote or by telling people to do what Jesus would do, or something completely thoughtless and cliche like that.

Listen... the whole arranged marriage thing -- I think it sucks. Some cultures force things on people that are just not natural. In fact, ALL cultures force unnatural things on people to some degree... as do all religions. As far as that is concerned, religion is NO better than culture. Neither religion nor culture should come into play when it comes to matters of the heart.

You don't need a bible to tell you who your soulmate is. You will know it if you meet them. Which you probably won't, if you are in an arranged marriage situation. But don't feel bad -- very few people ever meet their soul mates. Divorce rates are high for a reason, and that includes cultures that do NOT have arranged marriages (in fact, arranged marriages are probably more successful than most normal marriages -- due mainly to the fact that people in these cultures learn to adapt to the fact that they are stuck with a certain person, whereas those of us who live in "free marriage" cultures almost seem to look at marriage as a non-binding contract that we can back out of any time we want to).

The fact is, many people end up with people who are not their soul mates... and yet they fall in love with each other in spite of that. It is possible to be madly in love with someone who is not your soul mate; to care for them, to lust for them, to consider them to be your best friend in the entire world. Of course, it is also possible to get stuck with somebody that you absolutely cannot stand! In this case, where divorce is not an option, about the best you can do is to form a sort of mutually agreed "business partnership". You stay together and play the happy couple role around your families; you raise the children together, take care of the household duties together, share the responsibilities, etc., but at the same time, you both agree to see other people away from the prying eyes of those who believe you two are supposed to be in love.

Keep in mind that this will only work if BOTH sides have agreed to maintain this sort of relationship! Going around behind your partner's back is wrong, even if you do not love each other and are staying together only for the sake of image and reputation. Think of yourself as a "swinger" (if you know the term); you do not keep anything from your partner, yet you are not forced to remain exclusively with your partner. It may then be possible to find your soul mate, even while remaining married to this other person. Of course you will never be able to marry your soul mate, at least not without disappointing your family, but chances are, being that it is a culture that practices arranged marriages, your soul mate is probably also married to a person with whom they are not infatuated with. In this case, it may be possible to have a mutually respectful agreement all around with all the parties involved.

Sort of like living a gigantic lie. Which is why I don't like the idea of arranged marriage. I could go into detail about the reasoning and the history behind arranged marriages, but none of that is really important. It is what it is, and unless you want to disown your entire culture, you must basically accept it and hope for the best. Who knows, you might get extremely lucky, and your arranged partner will turn out to be your soul mate after all! Very unlikely, but one can always dream.

Good luck. I hope you two figure something out that works for both of you.

Answer 4

yes, you are right. this is generally the case in arranged marriages where they have to start living like foreigners. best way to overcome this problem, learn the following things.
1. try to become good friends first.
2. soulmate meaning one who is dear to other heart-to-heart, get intimate with the person knowing his/her strengths and weakness..
3. make the other person happy and make the other person make u happy by just opening up and sharing both your happiness and sorrowness.

Answer 5

You sound like your very unhappy, well all I can say is don't follow a culture follow what the bible says about marriage hope every thing works out for you.

Answer 6

there no such thing as soulmate lol
& what your thinking is not going to happen, you want a friend in your husband, men can never be a friend

Answer 7

sure, they have to share, both consider equal rights in all belongings, not only in sex.

Answer 8

I didn't think that that went on any longer.

Answer 9

Please post all future questions to Dear Debbie. She knows everything.

Answer 10

lmfao--- please DO NOT reproduce, dude.