metting a guy from online in person fo rthe first time??

Question

weve been talking for quite a while now since last October we have a very deep emotional and mental connection...weve exchanged pics and everytyhing but i only sent him ones a my face...hes coming in a week and im very worried that he will not like the way i look and might be disappointed in a way...how can i overcome this feeling

Answer 1

First of all meet in a very well lit public place. You may think you know him but you never know.
Be honest with him....tell him you are.........well whatever you are. I tell guys I meet that I am a bit chubby but carry it well. But then I am 57 yrs old. Guys really hate it when us girls present ourselves if we aren't a certian way.

Take a shopping trip. and get fitted with a good bra. Find some slenderizing clothing. Go to the make up counters and get a free make over. Then learn to du yourself up to look pretty.
Never let him come home with you unless your place if full of people. Remember there have been nightmare stories about online meetings.

Start taking walks daily and sit ups and some simple exercises. A week of doing that just might make a difference.
Cut back on salty foods. They bloat you. Eat healthy. drink lots of water. Be the best you can be for this guy.

Online we can present ourselves as we want to be and not really as we truely are.

Don't be let down if you guys don't have chemistry..You might and you might not. It is like a blind date and blind dates don't end in happy ever after.

Good luck. messege me on how it goes.

hugs

Answer 2

WOAH WOAH WOAH you are worried about the least important thing right now. Whether you are a teen or an adult meeting a stranger is very dangerous. I suggest you don't meet him. But if you insist on going meet in a very public place and have three friends tag along if you don't want him to know you brought friends have them just hang out in the crowd and keep an eye on you and if they decide it's unsafe they can call you or come up to you and act like they just happened to run into you. Whatever you do be safe.

Now to answer your question there is no way to overcome self-consciousness just realize looks aren't everything. And that a guy should like you for more then your body. If he came a long way to meet you and never saw your body he probably came because he liked your personality and mind.

Answer 3

You have no way of knowing if this guy is being honest with you. He can say he's the same age as you... doesn't mean he is. He can send you a picture of a guy... doesn't mean it's him. He can tell you that he's never been in trouble with the law or at school... doesn't mean it's true. Have you never seen "To Catch a Predator" on TV? There are thousands of guys out there trying to hook up with teenage girls for nothing but sex. It doesn't matter what he tells you on line, or how long you've been chatting - that doesn't make it true. I suggest you cancel, but if you insist on going, make sure that your parents know exactly where you are going to be, how long you're going to be there, what you're going to be doing (meeting a stranger), and what time you'll be back. Make sure you meet in a VERY public place and take a friend with you. Don't have the friend nearby... have the friend with you... right beside you. If you can't do all of that... don't go.

Answer 4

First...keep the date safe, in public, and NOT alone.

The best way to overcome this is to look at yourself in the mirror and see your inner beauty on the outside. Look straight into your own eyes and tell yourself 'I am beautiful.'

If you keep doing this every single day, all that beauty on the inside will materialize on the outside. If he can't be pleased with what he sees, then he isn't worth your time.

This is the hardest part, and that's overcoming disappointments in case he finds that you are not the woman of his dreams. But since you've been speaking with him via net, and he really wants to meet you in person, it sounds like it really doesn't matter to him. He is impressed with YOU, not your body. So don't worry. See that same inner self that you've already shown him and love YOU for who you are. The rest will fall into place. Don't put that worry out into the universe or it will come back as 'more worry.'...okay? Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

Answer 5

Ok for all these people telling you to not worry YOUR ALL CRAZY! Because you should be worried about your safety! I met someone from online. I was 17. The guy told me he was 19. He sent me pictures of another guy that WAS NOT HIM. When he showed up i found out he was in his late 30s! I had a guy friend with me JUST IN CASE! That pervert never talked to me again!

Answer 6

All that should matter is how you think of your self not what other people think, if he doesn't like you for the way you look then it's his loss not yours, there are other men out there that will like you for all of you that's the inside and out and then there are men who don't care what you look just what's in your heart and that your a good person, when you go to meet him just be your self and please bring a friend or someone you know and trust with you there are too many women and girls getting kidnap,raped,and murder from meeting men online.Good Luck,hope you start to feel better about your self and be safe! God Bless!

Answer 7

I wouldent worry I would though plan for safety meet in a puplic place tell someone where you are going and when you will be back bring a celll phone and have a code word for if you feel unsafe like feed my cat

Answer 8

Um...1 do your parents know. And 2, have you even seen the news, or an afterschool special.You know the one where the girl meet the guy. He is like 50, and he RAPES her. But all things aside, sounds fun dont worry. If he came all this way, there has to be a reason he came to see you. He really like you. So DONT WORRY.

Answer 9

did it ever cross your mind that his pictures could be fake and he could be making it all up. i know thats not what you want now, but he could just be a 65 year old pevert looking to rape young girls by the internet.

well my old friend got talking to a "14 year old boy with a great personality and a dog called Princess and a sister called Maddie" on the internet. turned out he was a 47 year-old bald man who had just got out of jail and he was banned from every single public place in the usa. they met up and thankfully she didnt end up pregnant or dead.

Answer 10

If he doesn't like the way you look, he's not worth it.

But more important than what he thinks of your looks; are you being safe?
Are you both legal adults?
Are you meeting in a VERY VERY public place?
Will people know where you are and when you should be back?

The answer should and needs to be yes to all of these questions, if not, rethink and replan what you are doing.