It seems every divorce you hear about is a nightmare. If you didn't buy anything together, have no kids, and had no affairs, but just don't get along anymore, it seems like the best solution. Have any experience? How did you get your spouse to agree?
2007-08-21 20:27:05 · 14 answers · asked by blueskys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce mediators is the newest fad to skip divorce courts. It is like a corporation split. If you can haggle things out, it is cheaper. If it fails, you go to divorce court and the price tag just tripled and it is a hostile takeover instead of a split.
2007-08-26 12:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jo Ellen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a mediator for a custody case....the person wasn't really good, but wasn't bad either. Each State and County have different laws on whether or not the judge takes any input from the mediator in the case.
Just talk to your spouse about getting a divorce. No-fault divorce is available in some states. If you haven't talked to your spouse yet, does that mean your spouse doesn't think anything is wrong? If so, start talking now or you'll never get there if you don't.
2007-08-25 15:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not completely sure divorce is the way to go. Marriage is a life long "job" meaning you have to work on it every day, and I mean HARD... Did you think it was going to be easy? Not so two people from different walks of life with different ways of thinking. Don't be so quick to just throw away this commitment...
Search your heart for the reasons why you got married in the first place. Don't be a quitter!!! FIGHT for your marriage in the end you will be SOOO happy you did...
Good Luck
2007-08-29 19:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by HoTTTcarmel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think really that its a nightmare, its depend in which country you are, and the culture they had. I know a lot of people who are divorce, but they are still friend after wards. sometimes when we get to the point of an understanding situation both couple try to put there pride, instead to fix the problem they try to make it worst. communication are mostly missing, little problem turn unto nightmare and the only way to solve it, just a piece of paper and its goes so fast, they want divorce and its get worse because one does not want to agree to sign. why not try to fix it, try to open up to each other, what you both did not understand, and perhaps try to communicate and try to listen and respect each other, spoke to one another share the things you had seen lately that you hate from her or him. be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayer. Love means sacrifice. each member of the family in one way or another, has to learn to give in, give up and give over, for the sake of the rest. Authority is for many people an off putting. if you can solve the problem, why do need divorce? The price of the salvation of a home and family is sacrifice.
2007-08-29 09:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by just4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mediators are go-betweens to try to keep order and civility at a meeting between 2 people who are at odds with each other. Sort of like a referee.
2007-08-28 10:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They help... I know because I am one... except I am kinda like Dr.Phil I make my people work to get out of the marriage. I don't like it when it is something that can be solved. If you are thinking of doing this... interview some... make sure they are not using their beliefs (usually religious). Good luck!
2007-08-29 16:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are going to find answers here. For one thing what person is stupid enough not to have anything put in his name.Us women have come a long way sense the 50's.we have learned a lot sense then.
2007-08-21 20:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you didnt do this or dont have that why do you need a mediator id be like goodbye take the couch take bed goodbye
2007-08-29 16:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by ohbilly60 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
divorce mediators just tell you what you already know. do you really need someone to confirm that?
2007-08-29 04:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by notmygame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not the best solution!!! try counseling first!! You'll be surprised
2007-08-29 15:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by ~FliZo~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋