Her daughter is very close with her ex husband. Will it effect her growing up stage?
2007-08-21 20:24:09 · 10 answers · asked by Violet1972 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did she stop him having access?
If he was abusive then that would be more damaging to the child then not seeing him .
If she did it out of jealousy , anger , rage , emotional blackmail , using the child as a pawn , depression of the marriage ending then she need's to quit being childish and just let the child spend her time with her dad.
if she doesnt let her daughter keep her relationship with her dad you can bet your niece will pay her back for it and it wont be pretty kids can be pretty smart and when their used or hurt by a parent they trust they will punish them and 9 times out of 10 it's the child who end's up on drug's , pregnant as a teen for the emotional lacking from missing her dad , in bad relationships and maybe jail.
Sit your sister down and make her see reason she's in the wrong if any of what I suggested is the case.
2007-08-21 20:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men also always do not comply to the court order in paying the maintenance promptly & sufficiently. And they get away quite freely on this.
(Based on non abusive case)
What yr sister did is just depriving the love of the father to daughter, which is not healthy of course, kids need love from both parents. For whatever reasons now, she may later learn that this extra love for kid is not harmful and she may allow the access.
However, there are cases that dads are not interested in the access also, as they are busy with their new lifes/familes, so whether comply to the court order or not is no issue here.
2007-08-22 18:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rootbeer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this all too well, My husband had this situation happen to him off and on for the first 4 years of my stepsons life. You seem very understanding and bravo to you for putting what's best for niece first. I hope that you can get through to yuor sister that what she is doing is WRONG and to be honest, extreamly childish and selfish.
Not only is your niece going to grow up feeing confused as to why her daddy wasn't around, she is going to resent her mother for 'taking him away from her'. I seriously hope that for his daughter's sake, he continues to fight for visitation by any means nessesary...courts, joining father's rights groups and keeping a long list of all of his efforts to show her when she older and wants answers. Maybe if someone in the family mediated between the father about times and such...that way the parents do not even need to interact with one another.
They both decided to have this child...she is not a possesion that your sister owns and can take away from her ex over issues and resentment just because their relationship didn't work.
I hope you continue to encourage your sister to see the error of her ways before it's too late. I'm sure she wants what's best for her daughter...even if its akward for her.
2007-08-21 22:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the ex the little girl biological parent? because if it is.. then the answer is yes girls need their daddy..she will grow up looking for that missing love in MEN a horrible thing to happend to a little girl. Your sister is wrong. If he is not the dad then the little girl eventually have to get use to it.. but the biological father must be in her life.
2007-08-22 00:20:06 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it probably will.
It is very unfair for your sister to use the child as a weapon in her dispute with her ex.
Does she not see that is what she is doing?
You might help her by talking about it, and explaining that if she stops her daughter seeing her father, she (the daughter)may come to resent it, and blame her mother.
If she loves her daughter truly, she wont use her as a tool.
2007-08-21 20:29:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please advise your sister to allow her daughter to meet his Dad. She may loose her daughter for ever. Court can reverse its ruling
on the request of a father. Then your sister have to ask her ex-husband to meet her daughter
2007-08-21 20:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by coolsukhwin_der 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly first of all, are there any arrangements made for visitations? if so, and that they are by using a court order then you definately form of could desire to abide by skill of the guidelines or you're able to desire to be held in contempt. by way of abuse, i could get a restraining order positioned against him, and propose the daycare workers that if he shows up there to p.c.. up your daughter they could desire to call the police and actual can not hand her over to him. i comprehend it makes for an unpleasant venture, even though it is fairly lots the only way you're able to be confident he wont take her from you. till then, i could communicate to the daycare workers and enable them to comprehend what is going on and FORBID them to enable anybody else different than you p.c.. her up from daycare. That way, you're able to be confident she would be there all day and whilst it incredibly is time you her to be picked up, you would be there. regrettably those form of issues take place all the time and there is no longer lots risk-free practices inspite of a court order. If he abducts her and there is not any court order, the police cant incredibly do something. If there is one, a minimum of they could bypass after him by way of fact it incredibly is going to be seen kidnapping. those are the guidelines in Canada anyhow, i'm uncertain the place you're from. The rules could be different the place you reside, even though it additionally wouldnt harm to call and get suggestion from the police. I did that with my sons father and that they instructed me if I didnt enable my son to bypass on his bypass to by way of fact i grew to become into afraid for his risk-free practices, i does not be held in contempt. One final element, once you bypass to court for all of this, attempt to get comprehensive custody. in case you get shared custody, he has merely as lots rights as you do which skill it does not technically be kidnapping. human beings could be spiteful and malicious, cover your *** each way you are able to. solid success!!!
2016-10-09 00:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH HELL YEAH YES
I SMELL REBELLION ALREADY
STRAINED MOM&DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP
EX COULD PETITION AND GET FULL CUSTODY IF SHE DONT COMPLY. OR SOMETHING TO THAT EFFECT. SHE SHOULD NOT SPITE THE CHILD BECAUSE OF THE FATHER. SOME PARENTS ARE IGNORANT OF THE KID'S FEELINGS AND WELFARE.
2007-08-21 20:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by CEYISHA S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and no. eventually the daughter will grow up and realize what her mother did and resent her for it
2007-08-21 20:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by robbedbyafish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she needs to know her father too!!! When she grows up, she wil resent her mother for that.
2007-08-21 20:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋