i have been on guard when i speak tomom-in-law .but somehow i end up answering questions which better left unanswered to her who makes use of it/news to relatives...
Also,I feel guilty when I dont convey any news/what i did etc to hubby.what can i do so that i dont end up being a fool
by conveying too much.i know he hides a lot of things from me nowadays.i get the news from some other sources and it really hurts that he hides it..but somehow i am not able to do the same.how can i correct myself?anything that i can praactice?i get totally mad and sad when i get to know news from someone else other than him..when i ask him,he covers it up..
2007-08-21 19:23:14 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you are in the situation where she asks you a question avoid it! A less suddle way of doing so is after she asks get really distracted and say something out loud! Like if you have a dog (even if he is not in the room) say, "Fido! Come here boy! Come here!" Then come back to the conversation and be like, "I'm so sorry, Fido just gets so curious sometimes! Like one time...." and then just kind of talk about something else and she might get her mind off her question completely!
You yourself just have to work on self-control. You have to be able to block certain things out of your mind while talking to her!
As for your hubby, sit down with him and tell him that you know that sometimes you have a hard time keeping your mouth shut towards his family and you realize that you have a problem but that you are working on it! Tell him that it really hurts you that you know that you have lost some of his trust and you want him to be open with you about everything again.
You have to discipline yourself! Good Luck!
2007-08-21 19:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, what ever goes on inside your marriage, should never leave the home. He shouldn't say anything to anyone and you the same. If you and your husband are having a problem, then you two need to sit and talk them out to fix them. When you have news, tell your husband. He is your husband. Never keep any secrets from him.
I can also say that 'gossiping' is like a cancer, it spreads like venom.
I think you and your husband should read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage."
If you don't want to hurt "anyones feelings", then keep your mouth shut.
2007-08-21 19:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to tell your mother in law that you will not discuss certain things.
2007-08-21 19:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bite your tongue..... if she asks things you don't want to tell her try changing the subject or asking her a question instead.
2007-08-21 19:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be stern, your marriage is at stake here and he needs to know that
2007-08-21 19:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by duanehofner 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋