Should I Be Concerned with Husband?

Question

Hubbs works a job that requires him to visit a bank to make a deposit several times a week, I have not ever been there but he has made me perfectly aware that it is full of pretty women, he even invited one to our post wedding celebration. He ended up winning a gift cert from the bank for the grocery store next door and we went there yesterday together but he pulled into the grocery store parking lot and not the bank parking lot. We exit the car and I begin to follow him to the bank when he mentioned that he thought I would want to start grocery shopping. He didn't seem the least bit interested with introducing me to the women inside the bank. He ended up going across the street to the bank alone and I went inside and began grocery shopping. Should I have went with him no matter even if he didn't want me too? Sure seemed to me that he didn't want me to go there with him. Yes, a little weirded out I am that is for sure. Be honest in your input........thank you!!!

We married December of 2006. So Yes we are really newlyweds. Yes, the lady that he invited to our wedding reception really is that pretty. And he had to go into the back to retrieve the gift certs............but as I mentioned he didn't need to go alone. From the way he has spoke of the bank ladies during our courtship and marriage, (just from time to time not too often, every other month or so) I had a feeling that he would do something to derail me from going in there. The crappy part is, my husband has a pretty wife, curvy, big green eyes, clean, great smile, and I even smell good most of the time. me 34 him 41. He is an attractive man and perhaps a bit metro, keeps himself quite polished. Quite the slap in the face to have ones own husband pull a stunt like that.

Answer 1

I had being once in the same situation and I learned that if a man boast in front of you about beautiful women, he is manipulating your self confidence to make himself more atractive to you and at the same time that you feel insecure.

Then he doesn't introduces you to the women there, well he is showing to these women that "the dorr is open because this woman I have besides me is not something serious", he is not showing respect at all.

These are BIG warning signals girl! Open your eyes and put him on his place, do whatever you think is ok, but if I was you I'll try to get rid av him and get somebody better. He will not make you happy if he is showing that his goal is to have you insecure and to make sure he will have always open options with other women.

Answer 2

Wow. How long have you been married? Why was he going to the bank? Did you have the gift cert already?

There is no other reason for his actions, except that he is trying to hide something at that moment in the parking lot. I hate to say that to you, but him making that comment about thinking you would start shopping can be nothing other than him hiding something. Whether it be him putting the moves on one of the bank women, or him not wanting to be seen with you in front of the 'pretty' women, or (switching gears) he is setting up a surprise through the bank for you (not sure what that would be of course), he is definitely hiding something by those comments in the parking lot.

Answer 3

yes you are rite , in my union every one esp. his family n relatives made me feel rite from beginning that he was the catch and i was so-so whereas in reality i get as many compliments are he does. It boils down to self confidence . I never had any about my looks and therefore self doubted my own charms But now i say it to there face that im no less and they shutup. I say it to my husband also if he tries to pull my leg regarding this......so next time just follow ur husband in the bank , u dont need his invitation/permission for this. Secondly if he can talk about some bank whats stopping about talking to him abut some guys who admired ur looks ? If u dont have any currently make them up ! Seems to me ur husband may be a bit insecure abut ur good luks and could be trying to undermine ur confidence like this. Be confident about urself and once in a while tell him u feel proud when other woman admire your handsome husband ! Massage his ego but make sure to wave ur own flag once in a way too.

Answer 4

OH girl please don't be so paranoid, your marriage is at the beginning don't let small things like that ruin the base the beginning of your marriage TRUST unless he does more than going in to a store or bank alone I don't think is such a big deal.. maybe he didn't introduce you out of respect he didn't want you to think he is friends with every woman in the facility.. Love your husband trust him, if he marry you is because he loved you, you didn't force him.. enjoy your marriage concentrate on the two of you.. good luck.

Answer 5

I would have said no, it's alrigh,t we have plenty of time and continued to the bank with him.

I'd be concerned. It's not right that he's boasting about the pretty women working at the bank then going in alone like that.

Talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Use "I" statements such as "I feel angry when you talk about the women at the bank."

Answer 6

Yeah it sound a bit weird to me too.....

What was the woman that was invited to your post wedding celebration like? Did you think she was attractive like he had said they were?

Either he has made it sound like they are more attractive then they are for some odd reason or he doesn't want them to meet you or vise versa.

You should just come straight out with it to him and find out the real story because we can only speculate.

Chi Chi x.

Answer 7

Sounds like he is carrying on with someone in there. I would have gone with him just to see who he is flirting with or cheating with. People like to hide their cheating.