I had rebounded and married, had two kids that are beautiful, but my current husband has had a separate bedroom from me for years. All my siblings want me to leave him. My sister says that I have a"disfunctional life." He has disresepected me and just seems to want different things in life than I do. I keep a happy thought, only because I was once involved with a happy man who broke my heart and I keep seeing him in all I do. He was my mentor and role model. My 10 year old daughter loves her father, and wouldn't understand, however. I don't know what to do.
2007-08-21 19:09:30 · 12 answers · asked by mortandia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will never be in a successful marriage until you can leave the past behind..... no man is going to put up with a woman whose heart is somewhere else. Get over him he is married and stop thinking what if..... realistically if this guy you've been pining away for over the last 16 years were to become available and you got together it would be a disaster,,,,, he could never live up to the fantasy life you've built in your head.
2007-08-21 19:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I read the whole question you wrote, and I have to say that, some of the things you wrote are true about how most Christians disobey these laws, but also some things I think maybe you misunderstood the meanings. I think long hair meant REALLY long hair, I don't do any motions when I'm in church like other people, I think the part about hating your family is supposed to mean that everyone, including your family is a sinner, therefore you are supposed to look at everyone as a sinner and flawed, but not abandon them because you are a sinner too, you can't abandon yourself can you?, I believe psychis, mediums, all that is evil and I stay away from it, I definitely give money to different charities. I think the part about lending money at interest to your brother means you don't put interest on the loan, just with foreigners, meaning non-relatives. I also think since my child was born out of wed-lock, if you ask for the Lord's forgiveness for doing so, you will be forgiven, and your child, and children go to heaven anyways along with babies. A lot of the things you stated I knew, some I didn't, I haven't read the whole bible and I do confess that, I'm working on it. I think a lot of Christians haven't read the whole bible, and that is where the problems lie. I do however tell people the things that I have read, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. However, I am grateful that you included things I didn't know, it just makes me want to read the entire bible, and realize the things I am doing wrong. I know as a Christian I am far from perfect, and one of the things you are SUPPOSED to accept as a Christian is that you don't know everything. Be humble. Thanks.
2016-05-19 21:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to live on your own for a while and see where that takes you. If you just jump from one boat to another it will most likely end up badly for you, your new lover, and the most damning to your daughter. Your daughter will grow up confuse with men and will have the same problem you have.
It's best to bite the bullet now so that your daughter will not have to go through the same thing you have gone through. Join a church and hopefully someone there will teach you how to live correctly.
I'm not a religious person but find that religion will guide you in the right way to live.
2007-08-21 19:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were still in love with another man why did you marry this one? How did things between you and your husband deteriorate to the point of separate bedrooms? I would see if I could mend the relationship I had with the father of my beautiful children. If it can't be fixed and you know that then move on...you can't keep living like this. That arragement isn't fair to anyone.
2007-08-21 19:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by cotton~candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made vows to this man. It's easy to let your marriage slide while you're thinking about your other 'love', but you need to do everything in your power to concentrate on making your marriage and family life happy. You made children with this man, they deserve to have a happy home to grow up in. Pick up a copy of Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, treat him like gold, and you might be surprised how much better he treats you in response.
2007-08-21 19:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget the EX... he is your EX for a reason.
There are a lot of successful marriages in which the spouses sleep in separate bedrooms.
Try to get him in for couples counseling... try to find some common ground. If it cannot be turned around, then get the divorce.
You deserve the chance to be happy.
2007-08-21 19:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, be strong n leave your husband. What kind of marriage is this? You can find someone who could love you as you are. Forget about Mark, he is happily married. You gotta to move on n find someone else to start anew. But you have to really seek counselling first n get your thots right before doing anything drastic.
2007-08-21 19:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by candie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave him alone. Let him be happy in his marriage. You need to move on to find happiness with someone else that is single. If your husband treats you badly, time to get marriage counseling or get out!!
2007-08-21 19:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DO know what to do your just so wrapped in cotton wool your refusing to see it and do it and your ex lover/boyfriend has nothing to do with it .
Dont bring a 3rd party into an already abnormal relationship.
2007-08-21 19:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound like you have an unhappy life. Are you seeing a counselor/therapist? I would highly recommend it since you don't have a good relationship with your husband & need to protect your sanity & your daughter.
Good luck!!
2007-08-21 19:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by punkinsmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋