My friend has gone all strange and is ignoring my emails - Adults please answer?

Question

My friend lives in the US and I now live in Australia... we used to be really good friends 1999-2002 but we had an argument in 2002 and we both married and went our seperate ways... well in 2004 I got an email from her out of the blue and she wrote this big email how she was living in Italy and she had a baby boy and she travels all over europe and she bought a BMW...(like she was bragging)
I was like oh congrats... well I'm living in Japan and I have a boy and girl aswell... so anywayz we've been emailing each other since then, but I only ever seem to get one from her when something is happening... like buying a new car or building a new home, or she's the #1 employee... blah blah
My husband just got a new job and we will be moving to the same city as her and her husband in the US, first she seemed excited and now she's ignoring my emails, i've asked her about the city and different things but she hasn't responded to anything.. any idea on why she's acting strange

Answer 1

She was probably lying, and now that you're going to move to the same city, and you've been communicating, "the jig is up!" hahahah!
My own sister does similar stuff to me.
She can't stand to hear me talk about anything good about my life, and will quickly change the subject. But when she gets a new car, she calls me, new apartment, she calls me.
I purposely don't tell her about my good fortunes anymore. When I know that she knows, through other family members, she never says "Hay let me see your new place! or your new car."
Some people are just jealous and want you to feel the same jealousy they feel about you.
I would just stop communicating with her.
Give her a bit of her own medicine! Do you really want someone like that in your life?
At least she's not your sister, it's impossible to get her out of my life! Lol!!
Good luck! :~)

Answer 2

I've had somewhat the same experiences with friends as you have had with your friend. I suspect there is something very alluring about a long-distance friendship where the friend does not have to worry about you finding out things about him or her. Now that that will no longer the case, the friendship cools.

And I've also had friends who suddenly, out of the blue, start e-mailing me after a long time of no communication. Usually, something is up in their lives and they need to be grounded to an old friendship from their past. Then when the crisis is over, communication dies down or ceases again.

My advice is to meet up with this lady but don't expect the friendship to take off and become like you once had. Use your energy on building other friendships that might become close ones. It sounds to me like she felt safe when you were at a distance (from you learning too much). It may be that the friendship has become a casual one instead of a close one. And that is okay because friendships change over time because friends change in other aspects of their lives.

Good luck to you.

Answer 3

She seems pretty self-absorbed and does not know how to treat friends very well, even if only through e-mail. I wouldn't put any more energy into her until she decides to do you the courtesy of responding to your inquiries. If she doesn't, that'll say more than enough of what you mean to her. I hope you aren't moving to the same town to be near her.

Answer 4

She's been lying to you and you're about to find out when you visit her and don't see a BMW in the driveway. She's going to start a fight with you so you won't visit.