I went to visit my dad the other day, and I freaked out by myself about my fear of death. It just struck me suddenly out of nowhere like a panic attack with a freight train. This is months after my mother's seemingly sudden passing. I just pictured the difficulty breathing and gasping for one's last breath, and it wasn't like I could intentionally stop picturing it and what it would be like during and after. It wasn't like I meant to get like that. I don't want to keep thinking about it but I do, and I try to do things to distract myself.
2007-08-21 18:57:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey I have the same problem and have had for years.
Since your mom passed away just a few months ago. you are grieving for the loss of your mother. Your life has changed and you need time to grieve.
You may consider going to a therapist. Or even a support group for bereavement.
The thoughts can be controlled with lots of help, you will need help on how to control what I call Stinkin Thinkin.. (Intrusive thoughts) It may feel like you don't have control over this, but you do... IN MOST PART.. But you do have control on how you react to those thoughts...
Do a search on Panic Disorder, Anxiety attacks, Grief and loss of your Mother, and Intrusive thoughts.
If you continue to have these frightening thoughts, please see a therapist.... It could lead into more problems on the down road if not treated properly....
Good luck, faith
2007-08-21 19:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by faith♥missouri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, what your feeling is not uncommon. Your body is stressed! You need to talk it all out, and come to terms with the fact that we are all gonna die, but when and how is unknown. No-use really worrying about it. Your belief in God, or something greater is what you do need to dwell on when this happens. "Belief" that all will be OK either way! When a body becomes overly stressed about something, could be worrying or anything, the body needs to "release. Panic attacks are one way, crying is another, exercising until your completely tired-etc. Controlling your breathing is important also-it needs to be slowed down, and deep. If you feel you need more help, please seek help, and that will positively put you back on the correct track! It's better to ask for help, than to keep acting like you have no problem!
2007-08-21 19:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through. the same thing would happend to me, but for much different reasons. I kept having reccuring thoughts of me dropping my lil sis from a 2 story building. Weird i know, but I would panic and my whole body would get tense. I continued having these I guess anxiety atacks for a few years. Every now and then. The only thing i can tell you is to talk to someone close to you about it . maybe that will help. I mean your actually the first person I have ever told. I hope you feel better. Bye.
2007-08-21 19:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lightmg1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry you had that experience. I can relate. Panic attacks are pretty common; would you be willing to get some counseling to learn how to cope with them? I took a class through my insurance company about panic attacks and it was helpful. Here's a link to a book the therapist recommended: http://www.amazon.com/Dont-Panic-Revised-Control-Anxiety/dp/0060951605/ref=pd_bbs_4/002-8922893-4677627?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1187762706&sr=8-4
Also, another book I really liked was Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. Hang in there and take care of yourself!
2007-08-21 19:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Alida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't say this is your best but then it was never intended as such which means it has been a total success! congrats, you wrote again- i foresee many inspired lines perfectly in sync with your self-fulfilling desires becoming wishes that come true. after all, you did just now 'up and do' oh by the way i went through the same last month but have recently been seized in the talons of the raptor again...
2016-04-01 10:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry about your mother passing away I have and idea of how you must be feeling but find something to do to get distracted try to find a job or talk to someone you really trust and tell her how you feeling it's better to bear with the pain when you let it out and share it with someone. best for you!!!
2007-08-21 19:11:12 · answer #6 · answered by happy2bmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is called a panic attack, and is very common afteer losing a parent. You might want to mention it to your doctor. He may be able to give you something mild to relax you for now.
2007-08-21 19:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have similar issues it is nothing more than anxiety and if you keep your mind off of it, it won't return. just tell yourself that it is in your mind and not happening to you. take deep long breaths. after time you will be okay.
2007-08-21 19:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by Roxanne G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to talk to someone who can help you deal with this, if you go to church, talk to your pastor, if you don't go to church, perhaps you have a friend who goes to church and they can hook you up with there pastor.I'm sorry about loss
God bless you dear. I have prayed for you,and I will continue to pray. God loves you.
2007-08-21 19:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋