Can men change when they beg for their ex-wives to come back home?

Answer 1

Nope...They will tell you whatever you want to hear to get back in good graces, then back to the way they really are...

Answer 2

You people really are a bunch of miserable pessimists! of course men can change! The ex wife leaving is a catalyst for them to re evaluate their behaviour. they may not change overnight, but a lot of men do realise that what they had in the past was far better than what they have now (no wife etc.) Many consciously make a decision to change their future behaviour or at least try! Life is too short to give up on someone because you believe they will not change. Everybody has their issues, you have your own baggage - don't just leave - stay and work it out!!

Answer 3

Not usually. But... that depends on the circumstances. Look back at your relationship. Was the separation caused by a one time mistake? or is there a trend that you should keep in mind when you are making the decision to come back. Is it a case of long term, gradual escalation to physical abuse or did he fly off the handle one time?

Begging and pleading is certainly a sign that he wants you back. Changing requires a conscious effort on his part to become the person he should be. Sometimes that requires some kind of rehabilitation or correction. Don't just jump back in without considering all of this.

Answer 4

Sometimes yes and sometimes no. It depends on the reasons why their ex-wives left them...if it was a matter of cheating or abuse, then no they do not change. They might act differently the first couple of days/weeks, but sooner or later they go back to their old ways. Ive seen it happen plenty.

Answer 5

Sometimes people dont know what they have until its gone.
If you really love someone I believe you can change.At the same time you have to be happy with who you are,you cant change to suit someone else.You aside,,if he is happy with who he is and happy with the changes he has implemented in his own life,then yes I believe he's worth a second chance.He must love you if he"s begging you and you must still love him too,why else would you be asking this question.
Referring to Jenifer's answer,a leopard cant change its spots,a zebra cant change its stripes,its whats on the inside that counts,not the outside.If he changes for the better or worse it doesn't mean he will lose his stripes or spots.Change starts inside your heart,not on your skin.

Answer 6

Chances are, he may change for a while, but he'll go back to his old ways. If he was cheating, don't even consider it. It will only happen again. Otherwise, if there were children involved then this should have been taken into consideration before the divorce was final. That's what divorces are for. Divorce is final. Go on with your life.

Answer 7

Hire a female attorney that can investigate these issues and win the kids for you. In most cases women get custody of kids but not always so you do have a good chance. You have to demonstrate your ability to take care of them and provide day care for them at any time. Get your ducks in a row and provide proof of her negelance for the court. When the kids turn 12 they can make a decision to live with the parent of choice. You need to do the right thing for the kids and not allow her to be an irresponsible mother. Cutting themselves and burning themselves needs to be brought forth as well as leaving the kids for long periods of time while out partying. Stay strong and know that you can prevent this with the right legal aide. Get proof! Provide it to a lawyer and she will not be able to move the kids away. Good luck.

Answer 8

I can agree with everything the men say here, it is very rare that people change, but, if you are a faithful person, and your husband has seen the light, then yes.......people can change.....is that not why we pray? If hes does come back, he must be willing to earn your trust back by any means.....and don't let him off the hook with it......watch him.....rebuild trust....forgive.......take your time doing so.......but hold him and tell him you love him......if you choose to let him be close.......otherwise old resentments will just push him back to the same old behavior........hopefully you have both matured since the last time you were together......good luck n God bless

Answer 9

They can beg till the cows come home but change? If they did something in the past what guarantee that they dont make the same mistake again.

Answer 10

For a while, yes. But after a period a man will start to test the waters again to see how deep it is. Not all men are the same. People can re-program themselves if they want. Good luck

Answer 11

Most of them NOPE they just want to prove themselve that they can have you back if they put effort in it.. and sadly after that they go back to their nasty running around ways.. once a cheater always a cheater..it might be some cases on when the man do learn his lesson and stay faithful and complay his promises.. but girl rare cases, you just have to take a chance.