Would You Trust Your Present Lover To Have His/Her Ex-Lover Spend The Night?

Question

If you and your lover were not living together...and s/he maintained a close friendship with an ex-lover from 10 years ago...would you trust them to spend the night together?

Answer 1

Yes, I've been married to him for a long time and I trust him completely. Matter of fact his ex spent a week at his house shortly before we got married because she had to come to town to take care of business and my ex stayed with me for a month after getting out of the hospital after a long stay because his family had moved everything out of his place without his knowing and needed to find a new place. Neither of us are the jealous type, we are secure in our relationship and marriage and both know that jealously is a waste of energy.

Answer 2

Uh, ___ No.

This was the topic of discussion at the last Thanksgiving dinner. I kid you not.

In the television show "Grey's Anatomy" there was a scene where this girl walks in to the bathroom to take a piss while a guy is taking a shower behind a semi clear curtain and he is surprised to have her in there while he is naked.

This girl who came to the dinner, who was dating a family member at the moment brought up the specific question you are asking as if she had a friend in mind. As a matter of fact I think she did. Needless to say that relative had to agree with me that is one of those places you do not want to take a relationship.

Ask yourself, if something did happen, if the ex-lover was still into you, as I am sure every ex-lover is, could you see yourself telling your current lover the truth about the situation, and what exactly do you think their reaction would be when you told them.

That is straining the trust in that relationship unnecessarily.

I don't have a problem with friendships, but; sleepovers are way too suspicious.

How many times have you heard a guy say , "It's not you I don't trust. It is him I don't trust."

Plus, I have to question a person being so comfortable in their relationship that they would take it for granted that sleeping with an ex-lover is okay. It is almost like they are saying by their actions that their current lover will accept whatever they decide without question.

This is your movie question brought home, only your lover is not on screen, and his co star has in fact had sex with him. Hmmmm.

I don't take people for granted, the current lover, the ex-lover, myself. We are all human. We are all adults. We are all likely to take offense to things. I just don't want to ad to the list of things Idid to mess up the relationship. I would leave that up to the other person to do that.

I could see hat ending a relationship in a hurry.

Answer 3

nope. any opposite-sex close friendship must have something special between them, but i'm not sure with 'ex-lovers friendship', they may completely gotten enough of each other and just maintain a casual friendship of some sort

Answer 4

this is not a worthy of imagination ,forget the reality...

my present lover...
.. keeping relatioship..
..with ex..
..and that too secretely..
..for ten years..
to be trusted .. for spending night together..
this is absurd and does not call for any thought..

but straight away discard the relationship without further consideration of future consequences..

Answer 5

Considering that my husband's ex-wife shot him, I don't think there would be any problem with her spending the night. As a matter of fact, I would like to have a "little talk" with her myself. So sure, no problem, come on over!

Answer 6

Yes

Answer 7

If the roads were covered with 10 feet of snow, maybe.
Otherwise I would have to question the need for the sleepover.

:-)

Answer 8

not even if you had the key to the chastity belt your lover was wearing

Answer 9

Depends.

Can i have my ex over 2?

Answer 10

I do trust him with all my heart....but no...there's no way I'd feel comfortable with that situation.