Thought on What if we "fall out of love"?

Question

A scenario were "we just fall out of love".

Many situations in were a couple is married but either person fall out of love.

Thoughts on the subject.

Answer 1

Love starts out as this feeling that you get when you first get together with someone. You feel all bubbly inside and giddy. You can't wait to see that person or talk to them. But after a while that feeling starts to go away and you are then left with a choice. It's the choice that many fail to recognize. You don't fall out of love. You just choose to not be there anymore. That's what happens. The feeling never completely fades but it does deminish.

Answer 2

In my opinion, if you can fall into love then you can fall out of love. It only makes sense. The kind of love that we have with a significant other is the kind that definitly needs constant work and attention. There are not many people that have been together forever that will say it was easy all the time. The hard truth is, it's just not.

Answer 3

That's a very interesting question, "falling out of love?" However the word love usually represents wholeness, and completeness, as well as growth. So if someone falls out of love, for some reason they have stopped growing in the relationship, and they are no longer able to develop what is needed to make the relationship grow and prosper. This tends to happen when one person "wants" out ways their needs. They are out of balance and because of this they begin to "feel" a lack of love, and begin to operate on an emotional level; where self indulgence is prominent and the only thing they can see is what makes them happy. Which of course can and usually does lead to someone being abused if the issue is not addressed appropriately. Falling out of love does happen because one person in the relationship was not in love in the first place, and confused the idea of love with common interpretations of "dating" and sexual encounters to represent their idea of love. Which of course is subject to interpretation.

Answer 4

It's just nature's cruel way of fooling you with exaggerated feelings of lust for the sake of continuing the human race.
Lust is a gorgeous feeling, however true love is soooooo much more than physical.
Once real spiritual love has set in and keeps growing,there's no comparing.
You make a choice to keep loving. But very importantly to KEEP CONNECTING with one another.--don't ever let that fade away.
Think about the other person enough so you wouldn't fall into self-centeredness so much.
Keep active in GIVING to one's spouse, that's where it's at to keep the relationship rolling, healthy and loving.
Lust can be very deceiving because it is so INTENSE.
Nothing wrong w/it, however just have a deep understanding that real true love is actually something very different.

Answer 5

Don't confuse love with lust. Maybe that's what falling out of love means. The lust for one another after you've been with someone for a long time does go away, but the love if you truly loved this person stays. As human beings we fall in and out of love over and over again. Love it one minute, hate it the next. Life is a journey, I suggest you get on with it.

Answer 6

What drew you to each other in the 1st place?

How much time do you spend romancing each other (you dont need money for romance) ?

How much time do you spend living seperate lives and did this cause the situation?

Simple point is you only fall out of love because 1 or both parties get bored , their not getting the attention they used to , their not being taken out and shown a good time , both parties are to busy playing golf , going to meetings for social clubs , spending time watching television in seperate room's because your taste's in show's has seperated from what you both used to like.

If you want to save it go out to the cinema and shnuggle watching movie's or hire dvd's to watch at home shnuggled under a blanket with each other , cook a romantic dinner together then run a bath and soak together , give each other massages.

There are way's to fix the boredom , but I dont think it's possible to just fall out of love for no reason it happens for a reason as does anythng in life.

Answer 7

I don't care what you've read, seen on tv or heard from your parents. People who are really in love, the real kind of love, don't fall out of love.

Love is not like any other emotion. It's not an emotion. Love is a being, a thing. And once it has you it has you, you are there till you stop living.

The term Falling in Love is in reference to shallow connection. When you fall, its a shock and it can hurt. The term "Being Inlove" is real love, Falling in love is just lust wrapped in roses, but the roses die and what do you have?

Those are my thoughts.

Answer 8

Don't get me wrong here but I do believe that it is possible to fall out of love... but it doesn't happen over night and it definitely doesn't happen for no reason at all.

There are reasons for this and only the people who really fell out of love knows...reason that could be hard for us to understand but definitely reasons of reality.

However, though I believe that people fall out of love, I also believe that just because they're not in love anymore, it doesn't mean that they stop caring for the other person.

Answer 9

The decision to love another person is one made continually. People don't "fall out of love" they just stop choosing to love.

Answer 10

No such thing. Marriage means to love and cherish whatever the situation.
I don't think anyone could fall out of love, but they could get distracted into falling in love with another.
Tough situation but the married couple would never fall out of love.