I'm a stay at home mom and take care of my 2 yr. old daughter, do my home chores like keep the place clean, do laundry, and prepare home made meals. Every time I meet a new family member from my husbands side, they ask what I do. I tell them I'm a stay at home mom, and their response is always the same and say stuff like "Oh, but you are looking for a job right"? I never respond because i don't want to respond with something insulting. They say it like I'm a lazy person that just stays at home and watches soaps and eat bonbons all day, which is so far from the truth. I hardly have time to see TV. and I think I'm doing a pretty darn good job at raising my daughter. She is 2yrs and already counts 1 to 20 in english and 1 to 10 in spanish. She knows her alphabet, 7 colors and 5 shapes. I'm so proud of our little family and my husband is awsome, he doesn't demand anything from me and even helps me around the house at times, he tells me my job is harder than his. That makes me feel good.
2007-08-21 17:17:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
So proud of my daughter I thought I should mention, I weaned her from the bottle at 1yr and is already potty trained. Serious answers please, thank you.
2007-08-21 17:21:43 · update #1
I am a stay at home mom also and the way I look at it is that being a sahm is a Full time job and we don't get a lunch break or 10 minute break EVER. This is the hardest job out there. Sometimes I think to myself that I would like to have a part time job just to get a break. Also the cost of childcare is so expensive anymore that it really don't pay to have a job, you would be spending most of your check on childcare. So for those people who respond to you like that, let them walk a day in your shoes and they will never say anything like that again. Just ignore them. The way I feel about it is that if we can afford to stay home so why not do it. Children are only little once and I am so thankful that my husband works hard so that I can stay home and not have to miss out on my child's childhood.
Try not to listen to rude sarcastic people.
Next time someone asks what you do just tell them that you do a little bit of everything, you are a cook, dishwasher, cleaning lady, window washer, childcare provider, accountant, book keeper, handyman, landscaper, driver, therapist, and a doctor all in one.
Because seriously...you are, you just get paid with love and not money.
2007-08-21 17:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Mom22 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom (or dad for that matter)!
My advice is that someone asks you what you do, instead of replying with "Oh, I'm a stay at home mom", give a response that communicates your pride in what you do. Take away their opportunity to make it *just* a stay at home mom. Maybe you "Provide everything your loved ones need to be content " or anything that communicates how you feel about your job.
2007-08-21 17:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by A person 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great being a stay at home mom, lots of feminists have chosen the same job. I think some people are jealous that they don't have the same choice, since they are the only outside-of-the-home worker in their family. I know when I was younger I couldn't understand why anyone would want to work at home, since you never get a 15 minute break or 30 minute lunch break. But I appreciate how important it is as I"ve gotten older. I hope that you'll find people who are more mature and will support your family's decision. It's unfortunate that your husband's family members place so little value on parenting. It makes you wonder what they do value.
2007-08-21 18:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a stay at home mom, if that's what you want. You clearly enjoy it, and it definitely sounds like you do an awesome job at it, which you should be proud of. My mom stayed at home with me for my first four years, until she and my father divorced and she had to start working.
It's great that you're a stay at home mom. Ignore the people who ask if you're looking for a job; why should it matter to them? Whether you choose to work outside of the home or do what you do now is none of their business. Personally, I don't even want to have kids, but that's just me. You obviously love what you do, and that's awesome.
2007-08-22 13:24:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing.... only as long as its ok to be a stay at home dad.
EQUALITY includes social acceptance, not just gender norming and hiring quotas.
EQUALITY means that to be granted the same rights and privileges that you also accept the same responsibilities.
Unfortunately, the result, in this context, is that since its not cool for dad to stay home, its not cool for mom either.
Rather, everyone needs to work because now that there are enough duel income homes, housing prices have gone up. Now many people don't have the option to stay home even though they would like to have it.
Sucks, but that's how it is. That's the downside of equality for you.
2007-08-21 18:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by Justin 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know, I get the same thing.. "Just a SAHM", I'm much more than that.. It's very frustrating and rude the things that some people say.. I just started working an evening job and the "pressure" has lessened some since I'm working and not a lazy bum anymore !!! Or at least that's what I felt like because I was ONLY a SAHM.. While I like being a SAHM I think it's much easier to go to work then to stay at home and take care of my family. My husband takes care of the kids at night while I'm at work.. The nights I work he has to take care of dinner and cleaning up the kitchen.. He says it's not easy and he only does it a few hours a night ! Just keep doing what you are doing and don't let other's get you down.. Good luck
2007-08-21 17:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
nothings wrong with being a stay at home mom. you should be proud.
2007-08-21 17:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by scorpus23 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing at all wrong with staying home and raising your child, why go to work and let someone else raise them? i am a stay at home mom, i feel that i should be the one raising them, not a babysitter. You are doing a great job and have such a great little girl.
2007-08-21 17:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a housewife or stay at home mother. Some women think that women who are stay at home moms or housewives are throwing their life away by getting married and staying in the home instead of working. I'm a housewife and it annoys me when someone asks me why I choose to stay at home and be a housewife. The reason I'm a housewife is because I hate work and it's my husband's duty to provide for me and our future children. Plus I always wanted to be a stay at home mom as I didn't want my children in daycare and I respect my God given role in society. Sure my husband and I are not rich but we make due with one income.
2007-08-22 14:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a stay home mom. Being a stay home mom is actually cheaper than paying someone like day care and you get a runny nose child and day care call you to pick up your child. To each its own. Ignore them, and just say, right now it is the right thing for me to stay home because I want to watch her/him grow. Ignore their comments.
2007-08-21 17:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by heavenlyours2000 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋