order protection??what will happen if i...?

Question

i have an order of protection againts my ex..i locked him up..its basically a domestic violence case..the case hasn't finish and i keep getting temporary order of protection on the mail...so my question is what will happen if i go visit him in jail? will i my case be affected by me doing this? can the courts find out i visited him? will they drop the order of protection? what will the outcome be? can he use this againts me? am pregnant with his child and i live in new york..

how about if i send him a letter?with a different address and a different name?can they still find out it was me???

Answer 1

im speaking from experiance im a abuse surviver i was in a abusive relationship for 8 yrs with the father of my two youngest children first i want to tell you you need counceling and i know this just by the fact that you are willing to go and see him after he has done what hes done to you i did the same stupid thing he would tell me hes sorry and wanted to make things work it wouldnt happen again and a million other things but i can promise you this people who do this do not stop they have problems and we can not fix them in most cases a shrink cant fix them eather i got several restraining orders all of which i had dropped if not because he promised to change or me thinking some how it was my fault if i had only done things different or convincing my self it wasnt that bad or that he would get better and then when things got really bad he would threaten to kill me and my family if i didnt drop the restrainig order and also here in florida you can go to jail for breaking a restraining order so you would be really foolish to go and see him at all and also if hes abuseive to you he more than likely will be abusive to the child i also went through this with him he beat tortured my children as well as me for several years and i was so scared to leave children and families were involved and everything i was so scared i was gonna lose my babies because i couldnt get away from him dcf threatend to take my kids and get me for failure to protect it took me 8 yrs of being beat up in front of my kids and being tortured with tazer guns and threatened and my kids being abused for me to say im eather gonna die in this relationship or im gonna die getting out of it but i had to get my babies away from this lunatic my children suffered greatly being hospitolized most of there lives with post traumatic stress disorder and other mental disorders brought on by the abuse and when i finally thaught it was over and the kids and i moved on he took me to court for custody and because i dropped all those restraining orders and would end up back with him he won custody of my 2 youngest boys and wouldnt allow me to see them for 6 yrs lying about me to the courts and to the boys telling them i didnt love them or want them and they suffered 6 more years of abuse at his hands i now have my oldest whom just turned 17 ive had him home about a year and a half i had to pick him up from a mental hospitol were his father had placed him 3 months earlier and refused to pick him up because he was calling the cops and running away constantly due to the abuse his father made him out to look like a lier and said he was a danger to him and his other kids he now has no contact with him but he has so many mental problems you would not believe he sees a councelor intense treatment 2 hrs a week in my home and has to be on phsyc meds the rest of his life he has permanantly ruined my familys chances at ever having a normal life so please think long and hard about what you are doing your sanity as well as your babys life are at steak here and you are in control of this right now dont make the same mistakes i did there are good decent non abusive men out there who would make a much better father and husband than that and please get counceling it is so important so you dont keep making the same mistakes and remember they do not change and we can not fix them good luck i wish you the best

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Please listen to someone who has been there. These men do not change. If he is in jail because of domestic violence against you, let him stay there and stay away. You will be putting your child in danger and that is unfair to both of you; in fact, you may jeopardize your custody of that child by having anything to do with this man. The outcome of all of this may be more than you are thinking about. A man who abuses does not change his tune and may be worse since he is already in jail because you put him there (and that is exactly where he belongs!) Do not put your life and your child's life in danger. Think of your child and not of anything else. You are putting yourself in grave danger. You are worth more than what you are accepting. No one should be putting there hands on anyone for any reason. Go to a battered women's shelter and get information that can help you make a better decision. Get some counselling before you make a big mistake that may effect you for years to come. Women end up being killed by going back for more abuse. Don't be one of these victims. (Remember OJ??)

Answer 4

I don't really know the law there, but here in australia if the bloke who has the protection order on him or the female breaks it they can both get in trouble. You would most likely be breaking that order by going to see him in jail. Also the police will find out because of the security that all prisons have and you would have to sign into to a register or something and show ID to get into the jail to see him. Therefore they would find out. if he is that bad, I suggest you have no more contact and give your child/children a fulfilling life without him.

Answer 5

You absolutely shouldn't go to see him. The order of protection could be nullified if you do that. Yes, the courts will find out because all visitors are recorded. Yes, he could use it against you saying that you weren't so afraid that it didn't stop you from visiting. My advice to you is to stay away. Obviously, there were good reasons to get the order so you must follow through with it and do what is best for you and your child. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

i just don't understand why you would want to see a person who has put your life in jeopardy. for god's sake he is locked up and the law apparently thought how ever bad he physically harmed you it was serious enough for him to be in jail. you should not go for your safety and be smart about this, you are pregnant. you are no longer important, your unborn child is. it is people like you who call the police, we come and you take this order for granted. he will get out do it again to you, and believe you me, he will, you will call the police again, only this time he will do it in front of your child. he sings a good song because he is locked up and need a visit. how valuable is your life to you. sorry to be soooooo hard but in my line of work, you can never be safe once he hits you. if you need to talk to me at my email, please do - safety first.

phila. police officer

Answer 7

Honey, walk away from him. It's better for you and the baby. Trust me. Why would you want to go visit him in jail? And yes it can affect the case because they will ague that he can't be much of a danger if you're visiting him in jail.

Answer 8

Depends on the state. In the state that I am in, you could be arrested for violation of the order of protection you put out on him.

Your best bet is to talk to a lawyer, and solve the obvious emotional problems that you have.

Answer 9

with the an order of protection u cant go see him unless u want to lose it once u make contact it is just a piece of paper and nothing can be done unless he does it again

Answer 10

you break the order, you dismiss it, he will get out of jail and your life may be indanger, and he may be entitled to custody of the kid when you have it too. don't. your setting yourself up for a real BIG LOAD OF DRAMA. GET A LAWYER. AND BY THE WAY, HE KNOWS THIS. HE IS PLAYING YOU.