My husband and I have been married for 2 years and I would like to get breast implants. I have wanted this for a long time and we can easily afford them. My husband is opposed to it and says he loves me the way I am and me getting them would just be for show. I am VERY petite and very small in the chest. I don't want anything outrageous, but I would just like to feel more confident and sexy myself; it is nothing to do with wanting attention from men. How can I help him to understand this, or should I just forget it? Thank you.
2007-08-21 15:56:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can see your husband's concern... no guy likes knowing his wife is getting checked out like that. My wife got implants awhile ago for the same reasons as you and I was concerned myself. However, what helped me understand her point of view was for her to NICELY explain to me that she wanted to feel sexier and more confident in lingerie, a bikini, and so forth for herself, not for other men. She also told me she would feel more confident in bed. She got them and they look great and she is more confident with her body. As soon as your husband sees that it is for you and only you, he'll warm up.
2007-08-21 16:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by Yogi 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I am married to a very small boobed woman (32AAA) She always wanted implants. But I LOVE her little boobies. She is 5' 2" and 92 lbs. I just lover her the way she is. After 40 yrs, she finally accepted the fact that I really did like them as is.
2007-08-21 16:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you do, forget about sex or have sex with other men because you husband is going to be turned off. Knowing than a woman is not real, is a huge turnoff. Further, contrary to popular belief, most men like small perky breast so the girl can go bra-less or at least they can imagine her going bra-less, Most men do not like top heavy women that are handicapped in anything athletic and who are going to sag when they are thirty.
If it is that important to you, divorce you husband and marry a man that likes top heavy women.
2007-08-21 19:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my husband said the same thing. I have small chest and get tired of padding my bra's, and never able to wear low cut sexy shirts. He said, if I get them, he would no longer be attracted to me b/c he knows that my breast are fake. All I can say is wait til you turn 30 and get them then LOL. Just kidding, since he is your husband, unfortunately you should respect his reasoning. Now the day you separate, make you appt. I am waiting for the day on this end. (smile)
2007-08-21 16:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Look you know why you are doing it and it's not just for you ,i understand you want to look good in summer tops and bathing suits what woman doesn't. You can tell who has implants from the ones who don't. Implants look like someone put balloons in under your skin. They don't move and when you lay on your back they don't go to the sides like normal breast they stick straight up in the air. I think they make you look conceded and trashy.
2007-08-21 16:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your husband liked you the way you are and that's why he married you.
If you deliberately change your appearance in a way that he doesn't find attractive. Then he may not like you as much as before. And eventually this whole thing can lead to divorce.
Making yourself unattractive for your husband and attractive for strangers cannot be good for your marriage.
2007-08-21 16:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would tend to agree with your husband. I'm sure your breasts are just delightful as they are. In fact, he may be a small boob guy, and that is what him to you.
Plus he probably isn't excited about the health risks of the surgery, and there is a chance your breasts will be mangled.
2007-08-21 16:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by scott 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget it! They're not healthy, they are expensive, your husband thinks you're sexier without them. I can't see why it would make you feel "more confident and sexy" to have expensive fake plastic things stuck in your chest that your husband won't like. Take joy in your own body and your husband who loves you the way you are.
2007-08-21 17:57:36 · answer #8 · answered by Susan 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Assure him that you want them for no other reason than just to feel more sexy for him. He may have the idea that you will want to party after you get them. You need to do this for yourself. If it makes you confident, go for it. He sounds like a wonderful man telling you that he loves you just the way you are. Talk with him a little more and be sure to explain you aren't talking about 36DDs either.
2007-08-21 16:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Julie H 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Truly, I would just forget it. I would be elated to have a husband who loved me just the way I am. Thank your lucky stars!
2007-08-21 22:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋