what r the hardest decisions you've made through your life?what r the sacrifices dat came w/ dat decision?

Question

tell me about the grieves&pains dat u experienced while encountering the hardest decision-making in your life.or just share me the sacrifices that you've done on this decision...tnx!!!

the longer the story the it is more interesting,,guys I juz love learning on others' experiences,,extend ur answers,,but its ok 4 me if u want a short one,coz sometimes i found interesting stories on short text,but it only makes me ask 4 more....

the longer the story the it is more interesting,,guys I juz love learning on others' experiences,,extend ur answers,,but its ok 4 me if u want a short one,coz sometimes i found interesting stories on short text,but it only makes me ask 4 more....tnx

i should have said,the longer the more it is interesting,sorry 4 the mistakes,,i'm juz a 1st timer,,i accidentally click on something & the details were double..

Answer 1

Leaving my alcoholic abusive ex. I know it sounds like an easy decision, but when you have a child with them, and they have your self-esteem so far into the negative that you don't even want to leave home it is harder than you would ever believe.
The sacrifices are obvious, making myself a single mom and all that goes with it, oh and he also made me loose my job by harassing me at my job too much.
Everything happens for a reason though, and I am at a better place now, with a loving husband and father to my child- btw, he doesn't drink or hit or insult! Still trying to build up my self-esteem though, and it's been 6 years! I still live in fear of him every day of my life too, and I will probably always...

Answer 2

Keeping the baby, and looking after him well as he grew up. He is now a well adjusted, loving, tall handsome young man. He's a plumber, and has become engaged to a lovely girl. All the years of grinding poverty and missed opportunities were worth it to give him the best start I could.

I seem to have been fighting all my life. Fighting for a place to live, fighting for money to pay the rent and council tax, fighting in court to keep the house because they cocked up my benefits, trying to find work that paid enough to keep the childminder in holidays, and food on the table.

After six years alone, I thought I found the right man, only to have him leave me too, five months pregnant, and I cried for three months because I thought I couldn't face doing it all over again. But I did. And now I have two strapping sons, and both are a joy to my heart.

Now that my youngest is old enough to look after himself after school, I can finally resume my studies, and perhaps get a degree. Whatever stage in life you are at, there will always be challenges. It's what makes life interesting.

Answer 3

I broke up with fiancee of 10yrs whilst we were 10,000 miles away from homeland (with his work). I then decided to stay in that country, alone and financially challenged. Saying bye to him after a rocky few years previous was harder than I thought and I still called him every week. Then he told me he'd met someone else so I had to stop calling. I'd always hoped the parting would somehow bring us back together (ridiculous I know).

I did cleaning, babysitting and taught art to scrape money together to survive, but I did have some great support from newly found friends and the sun shone every day. I lived in a condo with a pool and gym and was living part of the life of Riley (who is Riley anyway?).

I then took a leap of faith and applied for a proper design job locally and got a visa for 2 years, I quickly learnt a whole new language and set of morals (or lack thereof). I was backstabbed, had stories & lies circulating about me, I often worked 20hr days and more, yet got no commendation, but rather brought down all the time because no one wanted me to advance. I made friends I trusted but they turned out to be rotten to the core and ended up hurting me really badly. Alone and tied by my visa I had to endure it all, whatever came at me. There were times of pure happiness & euphoria in between though, I was happier than I had been in a long time on one level, yet lonelier and more scared then ever on another.

Then I met the man of my dreams, married him, had a daughter and still live far, far away from England leading a normal life at last.

Is this juicy enough for you? ;-)

Answer 4

Just to let it go and forgive him.
I was in an abusive relationship. Actually, the early stages. I never experienced an all-out-beat-down, but it got ugly a few times.....
I gathered only a few changes of underwear and my car keys and left. Meaning I left all of my stuff....furniture, stereo and CD's, T.V., clothes, books.....the only thing I took away besides my underwear and my transportation was me - the most irreplaceable thing I had.
I was fortunate that I had family that would take me in and help me get on my feet. I carried a lot of anger, fear and regrets for a long time. But one day I decided I was done feeling like that and chose to let it go. I forgave him for his weaknesses and his stupidity and his lack of self esteem. MOST importantly, I forgave myself for MY weaknesses, MY stupidity and MY lack of self esteem.

It's been nine years since I grabbed those keys and left. That may have been the hardest decision I ever had to make. In retrospect, it was the easiest.

Answer 5

I'm too young to be making Life Decions. I'm just gonna live my life to the fullest =]

Answer 6

well after having my first baby 14 years ago when i was 17 and i had to give up on my nurse training course because my daughter was born disabled, i then had the agonising decision whether to have anymore children because my husband wanted more. it took me another 7 years to have another baby. she too was born disabled but not as badly effected at first. i then went on to have another baby four years after that and recently ive just had my last baby. i really get hurt and feel sorry for the way my two eldest are and the way they suffer, i beat myself up over their disabilities everyday of my life, i blame myself as i gave birth to them. my youngest two havent got any problems which is a god send but then i feel quilty for my other two! i hope this all makes sense to you. i gavemy life up to look full time after my family, i dont get to socialize or to go out on my own, i just work 247 looking after everyone else.but i love my children with all my heart, if they could have my good parts of my body to help them, then i would give them up, even if it meant the end of me!

Answer 7

I decided to have my rabbit euthanized (put down) she was really ill and in pain, but there is always a certain amount of guilt that comes with that. I don't regret it-I remember as she was-well and healthy, not ill and dying

Answer 8

well I'm going through one right now. i never really met ( once when i was 5/6 yrs old) my family on my dad's side. i have to make the decisions to meet them and keep contact with them. it hard because both side of my family hate each other and I'm stuck in the middle.

Answer 9

I haven't made any sacrifices. This may be perceptual, however, I don't think that I have had to give in or give up anything.

I suspect that those who respond had conflicting desires or needs. I haven't experienced this.

Answer 10

to become a single parent at a young age, untold sacrifices come with parenthood, especially single with multiple children, you never know until you walk in someones shoes the tribulations they face