My wife and i always quarrel over small matter and after the fight we remain quiet for certain time before we talk again. I think this relationship is not healthy cause neither my wife nor i do not want to lose unless someone give up by making the first move in conversation.
I am a workaholics. I work from 7.30 in the morning up to 9 o'clock at night and i work as an educator. I am extremely happy when school or public holidays are around the corner. At that time i can take a rest or do something else but even it is a holiday season i still can't talk well with her.
I have twins son and because of this my instinct tells me to be patience and not to overact or doing something foolish(think of the children).
My wife is a working person too but only until 5pm in the afternoon. It just like two of us can't get along well. We have been married for 5 years.
Do i just do my own things everyday or should i take a long break from school or something else.
2007-08-21 15:42:27 · 6 answers · asked by andyraba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me that maybe you both have forgotten what brought you close in the first place. You are both living seperate lives and are not taking the time to spend with each other. 5 minutes of quality time just cozing up on the lounge is sometimes all you need. You and her are starting to work apart because you are a self confessed workaholic. If you put some of the energy into your relationship that you do for work you would probably get somewhere. Same with her, but one has to start. Trying buying some flowers, organise a babysitter and take her to dinner or the movies. Spend some time with your wife and see what happens. It doesn't happen overnight but small things can make a big difference.
2007-08-21 15:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you stop and think? Don't you think your wife would like to have some time with you? Why can't you take some time off and you and your wife go out for dinner one night and set there and talk, get to know each other all over again.
2007-08-21 15:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by rebel_southern_cableman2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you tell one of your students to do if they were having problems at home? To see a counselor. That's what you need to do. Find a good. licensed counselor and GO. We went to one with our problems 30 yrs ago. Like you, we were arguing, but didn't know what to do about it. Neither wanted to end the marriage. The counselor helped us save our marriage. Still together 30 yrs later.
2007-08-21 15:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your marriage would benefit from some family counseling.
Things aren't so bad that your marriage is in danger...but it sounds like you guys need a marriage "tune-up".
Also being a workaholic takes time away from your sons and that's not good.....you may need to change your priorities.
2007-08-21 15:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to sit down and tell her exactly what you told us. Use I feel and don't lay blame anywhere.
Good luck!
2007-08-21 15:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What language do you do your educating in?
2007-08-21 15:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jack P 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋