A "friend" of mine has just gotten out of a relationship and says she doesn't want to have any relationships for a while, though she insists that she'd be fine with messing around a little.
Well, I just don't want a relationship but I wouldn't mind some sexual contact but I really don't want her emotions getting tangled. How can I initiate this without making her think I want something more?
2007-08-21 14:15:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
That's risky business if you ask me... she's emotionally vulnerable right now because of the break up, so if she were to get involved with you, there's a great chance she'll transfer some of those leftover feelings (good and bad) on to you.
Friends with benefits doesn't work for most friendships. So evaluate how important the friendship is to you. If you wouldn't mind much if it ended, then you can let her know you're interested. If you'd like to keep her as a friend, don't go there. There's plenty of other girls out there looking for attention who wouldn't cause as many problems.
2007-08-21 14:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by shindy9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want to have sex but don't want a relationship with her. Beware that this might ruin your friendship. But, many people are perfectly capable of having sex without getting emotionally involved. I am and it has saved me more heartache than you can imagine.
2007-08-21 21:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be casual...trying to pretend consoling her on her broken relationship by hugging her....and just patting her on the back....do so for a couple of days, quite a few times a day....and then as a mark of showing love and care make the hug tight and instead of patting on the back make it to the waist, and brush lips to her neck....if she does not resist.....next time take the hands down to hips and kiss the neck and then cheek....and then the final destination.....remember.... continue to console her by words of mouth....
and within a couple of days she will herself take you.....how fine...?????
2007-08-21 21:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by cutechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋