I admit right now I am not the dating type. I have been on lots of dates and everyone rejecting me, until now. I finally have met a girl who has accepted me for who I am gave me a chance and now is deeply in love with me. I knew a girl could fall in love with me if they just had the patience to crack my shell open and let my warm side shine through. She tells me I am the most loving lover she has ever had and no one has ever made her feel this loved.We are now engaged to be married!
I do love this women, but part of me wants to marry just to get back at all the bad dates; all the girls who never wanted to give me the chance. Just to prove to the world I am not a freak and I am marriage material. I may not have the looks but I have a very warm heart, have great morals, and am loyal to her. I dream about flaunting my marraige ring around and feeling proud. I feel like showing her off to my the past girls I dated because she is way better looking than any of them. Is this wrong?
2007-08-21 12:31:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think thats a normal feeling..to want your ex's to eat their heart out. I do hope you truly love her..if you do havig those feelings are pretty normal. Good Luck to you.
You should cherish her like none of the rest deserved.
2007-08-21 12:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready to get married if you still hold resentment for people in your past. It was you who thought you were the freak. These other women just followed your lead. When you start thinking about what you can offer to this woman in marriage, and not what is in it for you, then you will be ready to walk down the aisle. Right now it sounds like you have a lot of emotional issues to deal with and it isn't fair to bring that baggage with you into any new relationship. It is natural to be proud when you marry but not cocky.
2007-08-21 12:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You marry someone because you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, not to show off to your exes.
If you are still thinking about past relationships then you obviously have some unresolved issues you need to deal with before you make the decision to go down the aisle.
Think of your poor girlfriend, im quite sure she expects more from you then to be displayed as a trophy.
Hope you work it out soon!
Good Luck
2007-08-21 12:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sort off cuz if u marry sum1 its from the heart n u picture urself w that person waking up nxt 2 them 4the rest of ur life n u shouldnt care bout those other chicken heads this girl saw u 4u n who u r thats hard to find basically god bless u with a women that most men and women look for for a long time
2007-08-21 12:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to make a commitment with someone for the rest of your life, till death do you part, BECAUSE YOU WANT TO MAKE YOUR PREVIOUS DATES JEALOUS, THEN YOU HAVE A MAJOR PROBLEM! What the hell is the matter with you?
Who cares what they think? It didn't work out with them, SO WHAT.
I'm not sure you're in love, because it doesn't seem to be WITH HER, the person. It seems to be BECAUSE OF HER, the reason. Well, that is not good. It's time to grow up now.
2007-08-21 12:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its wrong ..... ok youve fallen in love but lets turn the tables put yourself in your girls shoes lets imagne she has the same feelings as you ,now imagine she married you only for her own selfish reasons how do you feel now ? if you marry for your own selfish reasons i will give you a year if that . you have nothing to prove to the rest of us , you had no shell to crack , you found someone and you let them in the other people youve met on your journey were not ment for you . marry her because you love her above all else no other reason
2007-08-21 13:47:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its wrong, but just make sure that you do want to be married cause its not just a 10 second thing that you do then undo just cause you wanted to tell someone "i told you so". It wouldn't be fair to this women to use her like that if you don't honestly love her. Marry her cause you want to not to get back at anybody. What do you care about them anyway it was their lose not to get to know you right?
2007-08-21 12:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by chuchua1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whay not just be happy in the fact you met someone who loves you and wants to share her life with you. Who cares what those other women think? Concentrate on your fiance'
2007-08-21 12:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats stupied yea its good u proud bout her but if u gonna marry her to get back at evry other girl ur realtionship will jus end up in a divorce
2007-08-21 12:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Eduardo P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help before you ruin this poor girls life... and while you are at it, give sobriety a try!
2007-08-21 12:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋