okay..so my mom tends to like be really controlled over my dad..like where he goes.and shes afraid that he cheats on her.so she tells him that he can't c people..and yes my dad had alittle affair before..but their not devorced yet.
my mom ses its because of me, she wants to keep the family up. she doesn't want us to loose a mom or dad or anything.
And so is it bad for my parents to keep in a relasionship?..if they probually of wouldn't of if they didn't have us?..
...and is being controlling over the husband like..a unhealthy thing in a relasionship?or is it common?
2007-08-21 12:18:33 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
The fact that you're having to ask this question is, in itself the answer....you've been raised in an environment where now you are unsure what is healthy and what is not. It is definitely not healthy to be in a relationship where one person is controlled. That's emotional and psychological abuse. It wouldn't surprise me if there is physical abuse going on as well. I feel for your mother. I once was in a relationship like hers. I thought if I stayed with him, my kids would be better off for it. It's not true, however. I know that now. My kids were damaged by the lack of healthy role models they grew up around. They have problems now with relationships in their own lives. Your mother truly wants to do what's best for you. She mistakenly believes what society has been telling people for years: keep the marriage together at all costs. The thing is, it's NOT better for the kids...it's not better for her. Someday she's going to look back on all the years she spent being miserable and oppressed and be sorry that she can't have that time back again to change the course of her (and your) life. It's great that you asked this question. You seem to be very intelligent and thoughtful. I wish you (and your family) the very best.
2007-08-21 12:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it is sad a mother telling her kid, that she is miserable and tries to place the blame on you. Just realize every family is screwed up, and when you leave the house and begin on your own, you can take charge of the relationship with your parents.
2007-08-21 12:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not as common as it used to be; women have alternatives nowadays. The research by psychologists says that unhappy relationships are better ended; they do the kids far more bad than good.
2007-08-21 12:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah he's being a wussy, but if they both like it, cool.
It could be that his submissive nature is what lead to the affair in the first place, she had all the control.
2007-08-21 12:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Define the word ses
2007-08-21 12:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by yasses 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It is wrong for you to second guess your mother. She has the overwhelming task of raising you. when all is said and done, she will have live with her efforts. If she chooses to allow your father to restrict her that is her choice. If she choosing to be controlled than maybe she is not a submissive.
2007-08-21 12:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋