My wife and I sometimes talk "dirty" while being intimate. She has ALWAYS been very generic nothing with details or anything like that. The other day while fooling around she told me she had been a bad girl and that she had slept with her boss from a few years back. She had never said anything like that before so it caught me off gaurd. Then we were fooling around the other day she starts telling me now things she told me then about how they were often alone in the office and he liked to show her funny things on the net, she then said one day while he was showing her something funny he kissed her. Said they kissed a long time then hands began to wonder and things happend. My question is...is she talking dirty or is she for real? She played it off after we were done, but I am just wondering what to think. What do you think? Is this playing to our dirty talk or ya think maybe she was a "bad" girl?
2007-08-21 12:12:39 · 18 answers · asked by Wonderingman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Either she decided to confess a real incident to you or she has become comfortable sharing a fantasy/dream with you.
If it was me, I would be wondering, too. You should talk to her. Tell her that you have no problem with that sort of fantasy or dirty talk, but that it was sudden and a departure from her usual and you are wondering it it is true.
Either she will truly confess or she will maintain that it was just dirty talk.
If you are still in doubt, you could always try asking the boss or former co workers if anything happened.
2007-08-21 12:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should a) leave it alone and chalk it up to weird imagination on her part and b) stop talking dirty as a game, especially about situations with other people.
If it really happened and she wanted to tell you about it, she would have told you the truth when you confronted her.
If it really happened and she didn't feel secure telling you about it, then she wouldn't tell you. Your job then is to make her feel even more secure.
If it didn't happen and she made it up, then at some level she might be thinking about the boss being attractive. In that case, she needs more of your loving attention.
Maybe it was a show she saw on tv that she adapted.
So, no matter what the answer was, it would be good to stop playing that game and also to do all you can to build up your marriage and your wife's trust in you. Accept her word for it for now, but don't put her in that kind of situation again where she is playing with your mind or causing doubt in your heart. And tell her that that game disturbed you so much that you wondered if she had told you the whole truth. Make a fresh agreement with each other that you will tell each other the truth and then leave it alone.
2007-08-21 12:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by No substitute for privacy online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's only bringing this incident up while she is talking dirty to you, then maybe it is only dirty talk. However, she may actually be confessing to you what she has done but without actually confessing. Maybe you should ask her about it. Don't come out and accuse her but just bring it up and ask her what made her think of telling you that when she talks dirty. It may just be nothing but then again it may be something.
2007-08-25 11:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should ask her. sounds like she tried to give you an undercover confession. saying u cheated never OK even if your playing cause it leaves room for doubt ro suspicion. If she said it once she should have noticed it threw you off and not do it again. But then she added on more to the story, why would she think the thought of her being with another man would turn you on? Ask her!
2007-08-21 12:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I think she really means what she's saying. She is just trying to use the dirty talk as an excuse. It probably bothers her conscious that's why she brings it up.
2007-08-21 14:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she can be using dirty talk to clear her conscience!!
But you know her better than me!!
Talk to her about and see if she will be honest!!
If that doesn't work tell her you were a naughty boy with the Boss Secretary and see her reaction
2007-08-21 12:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, yu've sure opened up a can ofJELOSY!!!! If she is confessing,during the heat of the moment(to keep it in perseptive), or having a fanatsy, or justs wants to really party hard for you both, YOU"LL HAVE TO FIGURE IT OUT!!!!!!! Happy returns>>
2007-08-21 12:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Gentleman must never speak vulgarities to a Lady.
Try some clean talk and maybe she won't be so apt to confuse you with speculations of an affair.
2007-08-21 12:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by deruntergang 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uhh, I don't think that is dirty talk. Sounds like a confession on the sly to me. You might want to look into that.
2007-08-21 12:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by lwomar 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like it's serious. You should probably have a talk to her about it.It's odd that she would talk about another guy while she's talking dirty to you.Maybe she was trying to get that off her chest.
2007-08-21 12:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by Yulia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋