Why do I feel bad for not being to this guy? i wish i was into him so I could stop feeling guilty for not sharing the smae feelings for him. I don't get butterfly's and extremely nervous around him so that's how I know I'm not into him.
What's up with this? Why do I feel guilty. UGH!
AND, If you DO get butterlfly's and nervous around a guy is this a good thing? Or, not?
2007-08-21 12:06:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Nope I'm not straight. He is very good looking, but I am not into him.
2007-08-21 12:14:22 · update #1
If your inner fellings say no then do not feel guilty, it's your choice to be with who makes you happy.
2007-08-21 13:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by kanei 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you feel guilty for the same reason I do. Ok well I'm a girl and I got alot of guy friends. And I love to hand out with them but at first I did not like the fact that a few of them smack my *** every now and then. I don't know why they do it but I got use to it. But there is this one guy that is kinda my friend but he dose not talk alot to me. After a while it got to where all my male friends will smack my a**. And I let them. I think it's kinds fun. But the guy that is kinda my friend never smacks my a**. I figured out that he really likes me. He has a crush on me but I'm a lesbain. No one knows that exspet my guy friends that figured it out. I felt guilty caz I was not happy caz he was not going to be happy about mr turning him down. I figured I was sad caz he was going to be real sad when he finds out. Maybe thats why you feel guilty. But then I looked on the brite side. When I turn him down that will be good because he can find some one better then me. Some one more his type. This is what you should think about. As for the butterflys it's a good sign. I means you like 'em. I hope I was some help. Good luck. Latter=)
2007-08-21 12:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's fine if you don't fancy him and I know what you mean I had that problem as well and it's really hard to let the person down gently. I think you should explain to him that he is a really great looking guy but for some reason you don't think there's any chemistry between you two. Say you're really sorry but you cant help how you feel.
2007-08-21 12:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by towninthemorning 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IN a polite way, you can tell him personally or tell him by avoiding him that you are not his type. I'm assuming he has tried to cultivate your interest in him? Cite a prior commitment to someone else or whatever you fancy. You should not feel guilty if there is no chemistry between you. That is why you have instincts--listen to them! You know this guy is not right for you, so run with that...
2007-08-21 13:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you not interested in him because you are straight, or because he happens to have a face like a dog chewing a wasp?
if it is the first, i would be flattered either way and go for it, probs why im bi. but you know whether you are interested or not. the butterflys might be dreading haveing to put up with unwanted attention, or you could just want him.
do whatever you want. dont feel bad about rejecting him, it wont make any difference
2007-08-21 12:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey thats life for you. I Know the feeling. I've been having the same. This whole time i just wanted to break any connections that would....somehow make my feelings for a dude stronger. complicated..i said it was. and i had to get you to stop calling me boo. which its kinda cool....but i dont think its what i want at this moment. And you're feeling guilty for this guy..because you want to feel guilty. Its either you feeling guilty or think you're a heartbreaker..can't have that, now can we?
hey time to laugh it off...that repsonce that i give you...when i said i was fat and ugly. I was like...if i say im fat and ugly...and never dated because of that...that'll get him to shake. lol dont take it personal.
2007-08-21 12:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to be attracted to every other gay guy.
Perhaps you feel guilty because he is a really nice guy but the spark just isn't there.
You have no reason to feel guility about a lack of chemistry.
2007-08-21 12:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do, i know it's hard, but tell him you just want to be friends. And That you respect him. (do you?) Don't lead him on, that hurts more. Dude, if you're getting butterflies round him, doesnt that mean u kinda like him?
2007-08-21 12:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i take it this guy is into u tho Mac butu cant like every 1 can u as 4 butterflys i kno what u mean there<3
2007-08-21 12:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by tasty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if yu tell him off yu will feel much better and so will he. He will know exactlly where yu 2 stand and that will end the oddness.
2007-08-21 12:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by BPEN CHAI BORORO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋