The father of my child has supervised visitations.He's not showing up for visitation, What should I do?

Question

I recently got an order from a judge like on the 10th of the month. Help!!! I am not sure what to do..and advice is really needed. I feel like the child is being neglected.

WE are in the process of going back to court, this will be our 3 time going back, he doesn't pay child support , or nor do I have a lawyer.

But morally isn't that....Contest of Court...not following an order written on paper signed by a judge???

Not Even calling CPS?

Answer 1

Get more child support. The less time the non-custodial parent spends with the children, the more child support they pay.

Answer 2

First, get a lawyer. Second, if the father is not showing up, fine, that is not your problem. What is the court hearing about? It does not sound like the two are connected in any way and when you go to court, tell the judge he has not shown up for his visitiation, it disappoints your child and you would like visitation eliminated. Demand your child support though.

Answer 3

You cant make him see the child. Even if he has visitation rights does not mean that he has to see them. At least that is the laws in Missouri. The only thing that the courts can "make" him do is pay child support. Even then many fathers run and find ways around it. Good luck.

Answer 4

If the visitations are supposed to be supervised by a third party, that person is a witness that you are not interfering with his visitation rights. Even if the court ordered him to do so, it is not possible to actually force him to visit anyone unless he is behind bars. The father IS neglecting the child, but you can't do anything about that.

Answer 5

First of all the visitation by your child's father is a moral issue, not one the court can/will force.( HOWEVER, they will see what type of person he is, and probably "stick it to him" down the line!! They've got 18 years to make the a#s ho*e crazy! ) Keep all your notes/records of missed visitations,etc. and bring them to all and any court proceedings!! HE WILL PAY CHILD SUPPORT!!!!!! THE COURT WILL ASSURE THAT!!! As far as you not having a lawyer.....WELL, GOOD NEWS!! YOU DO!!!! He is called the " FRIEND OF THE COURT ATTORNEY/PROSECUTOR !!! iT HIS HIS JOB TO LOOK OUT FOR BOTH YOUR BEST INTERESTS ( the child and yours! ) AS WELL AS THE COUNTY'S/STATES!!! THAT is what the Friend of the court's office does! VISITATION, CHILD SUPPORT, AND THE BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD, ECT.!!!They work hand in hand with the cps and other agencies that will/should be looking out for you and your child.....Direct your questions to the FOC office, OR call them and ask to speak with their atty. or to set up a meeting with him/her???? AND...there's always LEGAL AID you can try! Look em up in the phone book,give em a call......Sometimes it's a headache, because these agencies are overloaded due to the amount of a*s h#l@s like the one you're dealing with! BUT, YOU WILL GET YOUR DAY/S IN COURT!!! BE PREPARED, AND LET THAT JUDGE AND COURT'S ATTY. KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO KNOW....AND WHAT YOU WANT TO MAKE A " LEGAL RECORD " of!! ( whatever you say in court becomes part of the COURT RECORD ) Hope this helps you out!!

Answer 6

A judge is not going to order your ex to spend time with your child. Morally any parent of course should do it. Though a court is not going to throw someone in jail for not using their visitation rights.

Answer 7

i'm going in the process the comparable difficulty with my 7 year previous'd father! it incredibly is been practically 2 years considering the fact that he stated as or confirmed for visitation, yet while he could teach, i could could desire to deliver her or be charged with contempt of court docket! notwithstanding, I even have been documenting all this from years, and that i recommend you do the comparable. please, email me if i could be of any help, I even have become a CASA/GAL considering the fact that all this has befell with my toddler. statutes variety from state to state bearing directly to supervised visitation, yet while i could be of counsel, be at liberty to touch me!! p.s. calling the police is pointless, the police can not enforce court docket judgements, it is an argument for the courts. notwithstanding, if he could take place intoxicated, or on days that are actually not his visitation, or he threatens you, by ability of all ability call the police and shop documenting!!!! it incredibly is totally practically impossible to terminate parental rights!

Answer 8

See.. the funny thing about the fathers' rights... he is obligated to pay child support and entitled to visitation but he is not obligated to visit the child. If you feel he's being neglected, then do your best to make it feel loved.

Answer 9

You can't make a neglectful father visit his child if he doesn't want to. Just make sure your child gets plenty of love and attention from you & your family & the heck with his dad...as long as he's keeping up his child support payments, leave it alone.

Answer 10

You need, need, need, need, (did I say, need?) to document EVERYTHING! You are also able to file police reports for his failure to show for his visitation. Then, you will have legal proof of him not showing up and you can take him back to court. I hope this helps. I, personally, have a stack of police reports for 3 1/2 years and they helped me, tremendously, when I went back to court.

You need to contact Child Support Services and send them your court order and they will be able to attach his wages (assuming they can find him) and force him to pay child support. BUT, you can have an ex like mine who jumps from job to job, works under the table and avoids garnishment. Therefore, he owes me a small $29,000 dollars in back child support. When he was working legitimately, CSS had his wages garnished. I hope this helps! Good luck!!!

Can someone please tell me why I'm getting negative marks? I'm just telling her my experience. My ex had gone 6 months without seeing my son, then was around for about a year, then disappeared for 3 1/2 years, then popped in for a month, then disappeared for 3 months, then popped in for another month, and has been MIA AGAIN for 2 1/2 months. This action is WAY more damaging to my child than if he just stayed out of his life completely. I told my ex that he needs to stop playing daddy and either be fully committed to being a part of my sons life or be fully committed to being out of it.

I think it's terrible for a dad (I use the term loosly) to neglet his child. And, that is what the askers ex is doing to his child. Since there is a court order, the asker has a responsibility to keep notes and at all costs, protect her child. No matter how unpleasant it may be. The child comes first and if dead beat dad wants to be selfish, the court needs to be aware of this, and they can take action to protect the child even further.