i contracted genital warts 3 months before i met my fiancee. i told him i had it in the beginning. we got lax with condom use and now he has a possible wart. 3 years together, been totally monogamous relationship. Could you forgive someone who made you sick? Even more than that could you ever get back in bed with them? it never goes away, should i just let him go and live a celebit life?
2007-08-21 11:45:11 · 6 answers · asked by pbabygurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I met a great man in college and told him honestly i was a virgin b/c i was for 19 years. We fell in love slowly. He became my first 9 mos later! Less than 2 mos after that i went home for Christmas break and was told by my obgyn that i had an std (chlamydia). I was furious and hurt, my 1st time and i get an std! I told him off and he swore it was w/ this girl b4 we met and got serious. Unlike u, he didn't know he'd been sick for like a year. It was a scary time for both of us. Honestly it took me mos. to sleep with him again and years to truly get over it. I needed time to get comfortable again with him and so does your man. But b/c i believe it happend b4 me, and i know he would never intentionally hurt me or us like that if forgave him- after i forgave myself. U were honest w/ him upfront and that's big, but 4 him this is new, his health, and his life. He needs time to deal. Give him just a little space but acknowledge verbally how u love him, and how great u are together. My boyfriend gave me a little time and i mean a little time, but called everyday apologizing, etc. It did work out. If he was willing to marry u with warts and all he must really love u. Hold on to that... We still have a great sex life, even after marriage.
2007-08-21 12:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.A.T.L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was aware of the fact and took the chances so actually you don't have anything to feel guilty about. Besides I'm willing to gamble that if he cares for you as much as he probably does after being with you for 3 years, that he will be more than forgiving and may very well admit that he is at least 50% responsible for contacting these warts. Best of luck.
2007-08-21 11:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knew what he was getting into when you told him at the beginning. Both of you are to blame for laxing on the condoms. You should of pushed more for them, and if he cared about himself he should of used them
Is he upset about it? And he has a "possible" wart? I wouldnt worry about it till he goes to the doctor and figures it out.
Good luck.
2007-08-21 11:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by A C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you, he'll stay with you. That's what I'll do. I wouldn't want to spread genital warts to another person either - another reason why I would stay.
2007-08-21 11:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knew the risks he was taking. He chose to take a chance. He can't be mad at you for being a willing participant and knowing what you had.
2007-08-21 11:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I THINK HE REALLY ACTUALLY LOVES KNOWING YOUVE HAD THIS STD FOR QUITE SOME TIME! GIVE IT SOME TIME AND REMEBER THINGS GET WORSE BEFORE ITS BETTER!
2007-08-21 11:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋