i would like to know more about divorcing problems for me and my daughter,please help me cause i am young.?

Question

i was married when i was only 18,and i was mother at 19.my husband changed and all my dreams were over.my family helped me very much,i am so lucky for that.i decided to divorce cause he became violent and i was afraid.living together was imposible.now i live with my family and i am safe with my daughter.i am an excellent student, this was my dream,that is caming true.i am quite and happy but at the same time i am afraid for the future.will i be a good mother.

Answer 1

It doesn't sound like you need help. More like moral support.

Getting divorced and moving on is under the circumstances an absolute and total YES. If you worry about being a good mother then you probably will be a very good mother. What frightens me is the number of people who don't care if they're good parents and just let the kids get on with whatever they want as long as it doesn't interfere with whatever they want to be doing.

Any man ( or woman) who physically abuses their partner in either a mental or physical way is not treating the other partner in a relationship as an equal. If your not equal then your only a thing to be used in whatever manner they decide.

Don't believe any of that crap about I can change. The problem lies with the core values a person applies to everything and everyone else.

Good luck and I hope you find a better man.

Answer 2

I'm sure you'll be a great mum, you had the good sense to get out of a violent relationship, you obviously have a loving family to help and support you, your a great student and you seem to be well adjusted if your quite happy. If your husband wants to see your daughter it might be wise if it were under supervision at first. (due to the violence). And you should be granted a Divorce on the grounds of the violence. Hope this helps a little, and I wish you happiness in the future. Take care x

Answer 3

You've already made the hardest decision you will ever have to make by leaving your bullying husband and with the help of your family you got through. Life does get better for you and you daughter so enjoy your life and you will be a great mother as you have protected the important thing in life your daughter good luck

Answer 4

Your daughter will be fine. The best gift you can give her is a safe and loving home, and she has that now thanks to you. My daughter was just 4 when I split up from my ex-husband and at 12 she cannot remember living with him. Any problems you or your daughter have as a result of your divorce will be far less than the problems you would have had if you had stayed. I wish you both good luck and a bright and happy future x

Answer 5

So, file for the divorce. It seems simple unless there are problems that you are not mentioning here.

Your family will likely help you with the divorce, since they are already helping with your daughter and education. They are probably waiting for you to cut legal ties with your abusive ex.

Have you filed for child support? If not, do so as soon as possible. Other than that, you need to talk with your family about helping with the divorce and then go see a lawyer.

If you truly worry about being a good mother, you need to be responsible for yourself and your child. There is a lot about life and getting along in the world that you will have to learn to properly provide for your child. Part of that is having the education necessary to find a decent job and be able to support her and part of it is practical knowledge and common sense. You are already in school and the rest will come with time, effort and experience.

Answer 6

You paid attention to the warning signs and you got your daughter out before something happened, that is definately being a good mother.
There is no book written that has all the right answers on how to raise your daughter, they can help but ultimately it'll b your womans intuition that will help you through.
Get your schooling finished, keep you and your daughter safe and work towards your goals of becoming independent of your parents. Leave dating out of the picture for right now and concentrate on yourself and your daughter and your education, when the right time comes, so will a man who will love you both and help the rest of your dreams come true.
Good luck and GOD bless.

Answer 7

Hi,

Yes you will be a good mother hun. You will be providing for your daughter and there may well be times when you get it wrong but that all about being a mother - we can't be prefect all the time!

You will be fine with your daughter - just be sure to communicate with her each day so you keep that strong bond and answer her questions honestly about the divorce when she wants to talk about it.

All the best for future!

Lx

Answer 8

You are very lucky that you have your family to help you. Use them as much as they are happy to help but take time to look after your daughter too. If you study hard you will get a good job (hopefully) and you will be able to provide for your daughter.

Do not accept violence from anyone and shield your daughter from such things. It can affect a person for the rest of their lives. Protect her and love her and you will be a good mother.

Answer 9

You will be a great mother. You had the guts to get out and stay out and you did it for you and your daughter. You are going back to school to better your situation so that you can take care of the two of you. I applaud you for having the courage to go to your family for help. Keep up the good decision making. You will go far.

Answer 10

Sounds like everything is starting to fall into place for you, so...yeah, I think you'll be and probably are now a good mommy. You got your child out of an abusive relationship. That's a plus for your child's well being. Your'e in school doing well, another positive. Your family is there for you, soooo how could things go wrong! Good job!