Im tired of acting straight in front of him and i want to tell him that im gay.NOw ive known him for about most of my life and im really good friends with his family its sortof my home away from home.What do i do in telling him and he will tell his family.Theyre not really homophobic they accept us but i just want to make it so my friend dosent treat me different.
2007-08-21 11:31:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm sure he already knows, but just to make it formal, just tell him.
2007-08-21 11:35:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew your age. If you're 12 or so, then you need to tell someone so you're not alone with this. Is your family supportive, or don't they know? I'm asking you more questions than you asked!
I bet he knows already if you are 17 or so. If you are younger, do you look for girls together and talk a lot about them? That must be boring as hell.
I'm afraid everyone will treat you differently, at least for awhile. If it comes as a shock, they will need time to adjust to it. You should be ready for that. But I don't think they will reject you, they sound like good people. Maybe you will be able to talk to them about things you need to talk about. Good luck!
2007-08-21 11:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by P S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, but a true friend will stick by you. I would make it clear you are not interested in him because he might fear that. Just explain that you feel he is a close friend and that you wanted him to know that you are gay. Tell him that you could use his support while telling others that you are gay and thats why you chose to tell him first.
2007-08-21 11:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by trisigma337 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard one! Tell him. Just out with it. A real friend will understand and accept. Make sure you mention that you aren't attracted to him. Say he's not your type or you like another guy.
2007-08-21 11:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by -Swatty- 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gay people are awesome. A lot of my friends are either gay or bi. I'm straight though. You should just tell him. If he can't accept you for who you are then he isn't a real friend. If his family can't accept it then too bad for them.
2007-08-21 14:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that when u tell him, dont forget to mention if ur attracted to him or not.. if not let him know he's not ur type, just a good friend n dont want to loose him as a friend..let him know how u feel n if he could respect ur wishes and not let others know who ur not comfortable w/ them knowing yet
2007-08-21 11:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sick of F*ckwits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way, just be open and honest about it. I'd be willing to bet that since you have known him so long, it won't be that big of a surprise to him. If he can't accept you for who you are, then he is not worthy of your friendship.
2007-08-21 11:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you explain to him that you aren't attracted to him. most guys when they hear that a friend is gay are afraid that they'll try to hit on them. explain to him that just like he isn't attracted to every girl he sees you aren't attracted to every guy that you see...and that means him haha. maybe you could hint at it for awhile before you drop the bomb on him. it IS going to be a big shocker and if he has some clues then he wont be as surprised when you tell him
2007-08-21 11:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be completely honest with him. It is silly for you to live a lie just to make other people happy. You need to be happy in your own life and your true friends will accept you for who you are. The gay community is huge and they will welcome you with open arms. You are not alone!
2007-08-21 11:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by JoliCart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jake he probably is aware that you are Gay. If they are decent people your friendship should not change if you tell him as long as you don't try to make a move on him.
2007-08-21 11:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way to control how he will react. if he is a good friend like you say he will accept you. i would tell him you have something very important to tell him and you hope that in no way shape or form it will change your friendship but it is somethng that has to be said
2007-08-21 11:35:01 · answer #11 · answered by peachez 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋