I am a freshman in high school. When I'm around my friends, I have no problem talking. The words just pour out like rushing water. I also seem to smile whenever i'm around them, even if we're not talking about anything funny. How come I am not like that around others?? Whenever I'm around people who are not in my range of close friends, I don't have anything to say... A lot of times people will make talk with me, but the conversation ends quickly because I can never come up with anything to say back. Also, when others greet me as they pass me, I only only think to say "hello". And right after, I always tell myself "that sounded so unfriendly! Couldn't I have done any better". Can anyone help me be more friendly to more people than just my close friends?
2007-08-21 11:31:01 · 5 answers · asked by Jim ((C.A.B.)) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Small talk. Just say Hi, how are you doing, yeah, do you know the homework, hey thanks.
People will see you as more friendly and less anti - social.
2007-08-21 11:35:24 · answer #1 · answered by qųěęŋ ŏf ħęãŗţş 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Learn to relax and be yourself (that part is hard! and don't let anyone tell you different, high school is hard too). 2) Care less about what other people think. 3) Ask sincere open eneded questions to get others talking; ie talk less and listen more 4) Keep up with current events so you'll have something to talk about 5) Make a list of Hello alternatives -- hi! how ya doing? howz it going? what's new? good to see ya, Hola! Hey there! -- etc -- throw in a smile and a wave or a nod.
2007-08-21 11:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by AM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other people probably feel the same way too, most people feel abit awkward talking to a new person.
Instead of just saying "hello" say "hello how are you" or "what you up to" or something like that, then people will tend to say what they have been doing or what they are about to do.
If there is some event on like a party or something ask them if they are going, that will usually start a conversation, don't ask in a 'will you come with me' way though.
Even if you slow down as you are walking towards them, then that will make them realize that you are expecting some sort of conversation so then after you say 'hello how are you?' they will feel obliged to think of something to say themselves.
2007-08-21 11:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make yourself go outside your comfort zone more. The more you do it, the easier it will get.
2007-08-21 11:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're uptight. Relax, nobody bites.
2007-08-21 11:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋