I'm 14 and she's sixteen. For nearly as long as I can remember she has not liked me. She speaks as little as possible to me, cuts me off or ignores me when I try to tell/ask her something, and basically tries her very best to ignore the fact that I exist. I was wondering if anyone might have any kind of explanation to why that may be.
2007-08-21 11:02:27 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she's a third child, I'm a fourth and I have a brother who is nine
2007-08-21 11:15:23 · update #1
my parents know how she treats me (though possibly not to what extent) and it bothers them too
2007-08-21 11:16:22 · update #2
tsunami- she cuts me off whenever I try to speak to her. I really don't think there's much chance of a conversation happening between us if I can't even say one sentence.
2007-08-26 01:58:43 · update #3
shes certainly fvcking jealous of you she cant hide it and is showing it this way, ignore her as well, older jealous sisters could be very toixc.
2007-08-28 12:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ginie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My sister and I are 2 years apart as well. Currently I am 23 and she is 25. When we were younger she treated me poorly, didn't let me hang around her and her friends and basically ignored me. Now that we are older we are best friends. She deeply regrets not having a relationship with me through our teenage years. Don't get upset over it, maybe she is dealing with more than you think as far as friends and school goes. Just wait it out and hopefully someday she will grow up and realize what a great sister she has! Also, in the future, don't hold it against her that she was mean to you because people do change and they do grow up. Just carry on in your life how you want to and be happy with that... she will come around :)
2007-08-29 17:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is not much of age difference but still that could be one of the factors...as you grow older and see her as a role model, you may try to act like her or be like her and that may bother her, hence the fact she ignores you.
the only thing that i suggest, is talk to your parents, so that everyone can sit down and talk to her about her behavior towards you. If this doesn't work, then reciprocate her behavior towards her, in other words, treat her the way she treats you, then she will realize how rude she was with you.
good luck!!
2007-08-29 17:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by La Trole #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a very strong word. Even though sometimes it may feel like she hates you, deep down she doesn't. When I was growing up, I had a similar situation as well. My sister always said she hated me as well. Did the same things your sister is doing to you. It doesn't make you feel very good about yourself what-so-ever. Time passed and she "tolerated" me and I learned to deal with her snears etc etc. Eventually both of us grew up and over time things happen. We are now the best of friends. We talk to each other on the phone all the time, go to lunch and our kids hang out together. The situation with your sister will get better over time. It will pass, believe me. It is a sibling thing that you will both out-grow. Good Luck and hang in there kido!!
2007-08-27 22:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by ang 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just the relationship that most siblings have when they are younger. It gets better as you get older. Just give it time. Try not to interfere with her personal life. That will just make things worse.
2007-08-21 18:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my older sister when i was about your age. i just let it go and pretended not to let it bother me and after a while she got over it. eventually we spoke about it and she told me that she was jealous of me all the time but wasn't sure why
2007-08-29 09:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont' really know but sometimes communication is the best factor. maybe when you were younger you were mean who knows there could be alot of things into this but talking is the best way to figure this out. try one of them talking its great soemtimes. good luck
2007-08-25 23:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her!
more likely a hormonal thing cause she's probably a moody teen. plus she was probably an only child til you came along. also ask your parents about it.
you could also try ignoring her.
2007-08-21 18:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Greeneyed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with both of your parents and ask them to help you out here, it is within their parental duties to make sure all family members are treated with respect and kindness
2007-08-29 06:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her of course! umm, she's probably like this because, she may be jealous of you, you might of done something to hurt her in the past, or maybe she's just a b*tch.soz
anyway, goodluck! =)
2007-08-29 03:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋