i feel depressed cuz of this, what should i do?
2007-08-21 10:35:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
hey man i know exactly how u feel. i stutter too. I'm 21 and a senior in college. U just have to just get it out. build your confidence and just keep hitting and missing. being cute is only so much and just because you stutter, a girl shouldn't just be turned off (although I've had this happen infinite times). If a girl really like you, she'll deal with your stuttering. All my friends know I stutter, yet they accept me for who I am. You have to learn how to love yourself for who you are and learn to love everything about you. You are a stutterer, but it does not define who you are. You have to learn how to love yourself first, and that means stuttering through situations sometimes. My mom works at a university in the comptrollers office. She has to answer the phone all day and sometimes she gets stuck on words but she gets through it. You have to just learn to face things head on, even though its embarrassing and frustrating. I'll tell you what happened to me the other day. I went to order some fast food and i went inside so that i could get eye contact with the guy who took my order. I said what i wanted 100 times before i went and ordered but couldn't say it for anything in the world. It took me a good 2 minutes to get out what i wanted exactly. Sometimes this happens, and believe me, talking to girls is pretty hard. Some people are really shallow, but the good thing is that you can weed out these people. Stuttering sometimes is a good thing. It shows you what people really are like and what they are wiling to accept from people around them. Stuttering is a disability just like being paralyzed or handicapped. Regardless, those people are just like you and me, yet they have much more obvious flaws. God gave everyone flaws. Everyone is created with a set number of strengths and weaknesses. Only a fool focuses on their weaknesses. Doing this, you will drag yourself into a depression, much like the one you're in now. I understand exactly how you feel. Ultimately, you should just talk to a girl, and do it again, and do it again. Practice at it, until it gets easier. Until u feel comfortable with it. I've had instances where i was completely calm, yet i stuttered anyway. Sometimes being calm and relaxed doesn't always work. What is important is that you love yourself and you show other people that you love you. When a girl realizes that, stutterer or not, she will be impressed. If not, then she isn't worth your time or your effort. Some people are put on this earth with pretty faces and ugly hearts. They can be the most attractive yet shallow people. If this kind of person tries to put you down, you should remember that this person has problems that are much less obvious than yours yet they are much more significant. If a girl can't like you for who you are, then she is not worth your time. If she doesn't have the decency or patience to be a good listener, then she isn't worth your love, time, effort, or nervousness. I'm not gonna predict anything man. I'm just hear to tell you, God loves you and you have to love you too. When you start loving yourself, it wont matter how you sound and getting turned down wont affect you. Hell, even the most handsome guys get turned down for whatever reason. You have to just hit or miss or let a girl find you. Either way, you have to learn how to love who you are. You are a child of God and a beautiful person who has a purpose in life. God bless man. I hope it gets better. I know exactly how you feel and I pray that you learn to love who you are so that others might love you too.
2007-08-24 19:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by leonbull0408 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't take it so personally..^^We would all start stuttering if we concentrated so hard the words couldn't get out. It's not really a defect you have..just a side effect of your worrying so hard. Convince yourself that it's not that big a deal if you mess up with a girl......that you know you could've done better anyway....and that b/c of this what she thinks don't mean jackshi. You know you are the ****, nobody needs to support that=]. It'll still be there whether they do or do not. Consciously practice self-approval and a "pfft..what could this hurt me??" attitude, cuz you KNOW it ain't gonna hurt you, you have to trust it wont, and you have to trust, like you trust you'll brush your teeth tonight before you go to bed, that you really don't see the big deal in this and it's not gonna affect you permanently or whatever..so who cares. "what could it hurt?" It's a game^^. Don't see it as anything else. Relish in the safety of knowing that you approve of yourself and that you trust in your ability to ricochet back completely unaffected by something so simple and so minute as this......
You can't control he girl's reaction, but you can control your thoughts and feelings as a result of it. You're the easiest person to control and you are the easiest person to rely on. Just focus on that and there'll be no reason for you to get distracted enough to think otherwise...
2007-08-21 10:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Parker232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet girls online. You won't stutter when you type. And that way, by the time they actually speak with you, they already know you and are attached enough that they will want to stick around despite the stuttering, and help you out.
2007-08-21 11:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it as God has chosen the right gal for you. Until you meet her, you can work on your stuttering by getting the book published by The Stuttering Foundation "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" and work through the steps to improve your speech. Check out www.stutteringhelp.org and look in their estore or check your local public library for the book.
2007-08-21 14:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bud B 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
take up guitar
>your probably not going to impress girls with conversation
who cares alot of guys arent big on that anyways
learn some chords or technical solos, let the guitar do the talking, and you get laid............i mean u get the girl
2007-08-21 18:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by Subconscious point of view 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to a girl and be more confident, and i guess if you have to write down watever you have to say or tell her you studder or sometin, srry i couldnt help more
2007-08-21 10:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by Coolstorybro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋