do you think its fair for kid to be raised by gays? When they have family would you show up at your kid school

Question

How do you explain to that him or her what you do is right or wrong? I'm just asking a question. Don't shoot the messenger.

Answer 1

I don't think it's fair for anyone to be subjected to gays. They can explain any way they want to but they can't make it right or normal.

Answer 2

Would you rather they be raised by wolves, or abusive parents or foster parents? And yes, I would show up at my kids' school. Heterosexual parents don't have the ownership of parental love. I'm totally straight, but some of my best friends are gay (both sexes), and have better relationships than either one of my marriages were. As for explaining a relationship to a child, you wait until he or she is old enough to understand that just because it's your own choice, it doesn't make it everyone else's choice; it's not right or wrong, it's personal, and nobody has the right to take that choice away from anyone. In the same line, nobody has the right to force that decision on anyone, either.

Answer 3

I am a straight adult child of a lesbian couple. Before my mom met Paula, she was very sick. She was trying to raise six kids on her own with diabetes and very little support from our fathers (there are two).

Four of us kids went into the foster care program while my mother spent some time trying to get healthy enough to raise us. My oldest brother went into the Army and my oldest sister ran away.

My mother met Paula, and they were together for 30 some odd years. Paula got the four of us kids out of foster care and raised us as her own. She had no obligation to spend her money or time raising us, but she did. At 13 years old, one of the first things I noticed when I came back home was that my mother had a partner who was gentle, caring and definitely not abusive. How then, could I ever think it was wrong for two women to love and support each other? Paula took care of us kids and my mother better than anyone else ever had.

I have never been embarrassed by this admission. Paula was usually the parent I contacted when I got into a couple problems at school. In Junior high, I was told I had to take a cooking class. I've been cooking meals for a family of seven since I was eight years old. I know how to cook. I did not need to take a class to have me make cookies and think that's cooking. I told the counselor that I wanted to take a drafting class - because I knew there were drafting jobs that paid well (yeah, okay....this was before CAD - I'm dating myself). I was told I had to take cooking. I called Paula, explained the situation and handed the phone to the counselor. Guess who got enrolled in a drafting class?

Paula loved my mother. I love my mother. I loved Paula. How can who she sleeps with be my business?

Answer 4

What I think you are implying here is that the "unfairness" would come from the fact that a child of gay parents would be subject to a certain amount of discrimination.

Children of black parents also face discrimination. No one is suggesting that it's "unfair" for blacks to have children, knowing that their kids may face racism.

Also, for the record, Meagan G - It would be really nice if homosexuality had become an "accepted thing" that "no one cared about" but that's just not true. Homophobia - and racism - are alive and well in America. Living in NY or CA or one of a handful of other states can spoil a person, and blind you to the reality - tolerance has a *long* way to go.

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with 2 men or 2 women raising a kid.
All that matters is that the parents love the kid.
Do you think it's right that some(not saying all) straight families abuse their kids?
Who raises the kid shouldn't be an issue, but whether or not the kid is loved...that should be the issue.

Answer 6

I understand what you're saying, but there really aren't many good alternatives in this country. Orphanages don't exist anymore and the adoption/foster care systems in most states are downright scary. I would rather see a child raised by gay parents than by the state, wouldn't you? What if you were a child in the foster care system of the state? Would you rather stay there being shuffled from home to home, never sure if you're going to be put in an abusive situation or for how long or would you rather be adopted by gay parents who would clothe you, feed you, love you, attend all your soccer games, etc.?

Answer 7

My son was raised by my partner and I. He never once was harassed, bullied, teased or made fun of...he was never harmed or put in danger by bullies either.

I think it's the grown ups who have the issues, not kids.
They usually can figure things out well enough on their own. My son's friends didn't abandon him when they found out his parents were gay/lesbian.
His friends parents didn't freak out and say they couldn't be friends with my son.
As a matter of fact we (my partner and I) get along just fine with our son's friends' parents.

The APA and AAP (APA = American Psychological Association....and AAP = American Academy of Pediatrics) have already done studies regarding children raised in same-sex parented families and found Nothing detrimental that affected/effected the children.
They had higher percentage of being better adjusted to living in a diverse world, were no more likely to question their own sexuality or have any confussion about sexuality than children raised by opposite-gender parents.

Answer 8

I think it is perfectly fine. There should be explanation to the children when they ask "how come I have 2 mommies, or 2 daddies".... There are so may children out there with a mother and a father that are not loving and supportive. As long as it is explained that sometimes people fall in love with different people and that is okay. Are the children being taken care of, feel loved??

Answer 9

Shoot the messenger? LOL. As if. Why trouble with a fool?

Also, you might think about learning how to write, it's so essential when posting online messages.

But if you like, the messenger can shoot himself.

Answer 10

Saying that gay people shouldn't raise kids cause they might "teach" them to be gay is silly. If that were the case where did the gay people come from? Their parents obviously didn't teach them to be hetrosexuals. I really don't understand why anyone would be against homosexuality, as long as they keep their feather boas and sparkly shoes off of your yard, leave em alone. Gay sex isn't wrong, it's just different (allthough I still get the hebbie jeebies when I see two guys kiss, can't help it).

Answer 11

you know what, i used to think that it wasnt a good idea. but a few weeks ago i saw a show where they reported that an obese couple werent allowed to adopt because they were obese. I thought, "why should it matter?" if a child is bouncing around from foster home to foster home, unloved, possibly abused...wouldnt we as a society rather that they be loved by a caring couple, no matter whether they are fat or gay or whatever?

a loving family is much better for the child and society than no family at all.