Suburban black kid wakes up and realises the world is more racisist then he realised?

Question

I recently moved into a multicultral city, you see I moved out of the subarbs ,out of my moms house and out of my home town to a new city. I am 20 years old and didint realise how racist in the real world is.

experience 1, walked in the store and the asian store owner is looking at me like a hawk, he isint looking at any of his white coustomers or asian customers but his eyes ar fixed on me


experience 2, i worked at a jewish camp and some of the jewish people asked me if i have ever went to college or university and if i know how to fire guns,

experience 3, a black guy and a white girl holding hands down the street the dirty looks come flying and seem to come from every where.


have you experienced any of the situations i have experienced
and how did it make you feel

Answer 1

come on!!! :)

I live in the 'burbs and even I know that there are racist people everywhere.

I honestly couldn't care less as I make sure I surround myself with positive people

Answer 2

I have never experianced anything like you have said. Most people are friendly where I live no matter what race they are. Perhaps the asian store owner was looking like that because you area teenager? Maybe the people at the jewish camp don't get out very much? Where do you live? Nobody has ever been rude to me because I am black.
(Did you live in an all black area before, I have never lived in a place like that)
Why would people be more racist in the city ? That doesnt make sense at all. Cities are more accepting in general I know.
I'm sorry you've had bad experiances but do not assume that all of them are because of your race. Treat people well and smile and most of them will return your kindness.

Answer 3

I grew up in suburbia too, and felt the similar things the first few years I moved to a city. After awhile I got a better feel for what was going on and felt differently. For example it turned out that "asian" (in my neck of the woods it's usually arabic) store owners watched "gangstas" like hawks, not necessarily any black person who came in. And around here (SF Bay Area) there are so many mixed couples of every background imaginable dirty looks are kinda rare (though I got them from black women when I had asian girlfriends).

Answer 4

What you have to do, personally, is get your education, and excel at whatever profession you choose.

Do not buy into the black cultural crap that's so prevalent in middle and high schools that any attempt to actually get good grades and have goals is "acting white". The peer pressure can be intense on those who don't buy into this crap, but it's well worth it later on when you look back at those peers who are now sitting in jail while you are making a good living, owning your own home, raising a decent family.

By doing this, you will break the racist stereotypes. There is no other way to do it. Don't think anyone is going to hand you anything, you have to get up and do it yourself.

Answer 5

Yes, I am multiracial and grew up in a white suburban environment. I have had similar experiences. Racism is alive and well; don't let it get you down, get out there and do something about it. Don't let *your* kids grow up without teaching them how to cope with this stuff, because sadly it will still be around then.

For me the most amazing thing is how soon after I meet someone they ask what my race is. It is really important to people to know "what you are;" apparently being human isn't enough. My theory is that they want to know which jokes they can tell, so I make it a point to say I don't want to hear any racist jokes at all.

Answer 6

I grew up in a small town that was 99.9% white. No blacks and a few asian families whose parents were faculty members at the local college. I couldn't grow up racist because there was no one to be racist to...there was only white people.

However, it meant that I grew up very naive. I later moved to Japan for a couple of years where suddenly I was in the minority. I got stared at...people sitting next to me on the train would get up and sit elsewhere. A few didn't want my business.

Nothing too bad...I figure it gave me a very small taste of being a minority.

Answer 7

each physique's somewhat afraid of "different". White little ones get the comparable seems and thoughts in predominantly black/latino/asian neighborhoods. You destructive adult males merely get the a-holes to bypass alongside with the "concern of the different". concern + stereotyping jerks = unhappy state of the worldwide. i think all i will inform you from the white chick point of view is that i will comprehend the "discomfort"----yet i will in no way be waiting to comprehend the genuine effect of what you're dealing with. Racists are everywhere, and on the two sides, yet your element has a justified sense of wariness that i could I do something to eliminate. regrettably, it might take almost an entire era demise out earlier they could instill their pathetic excuse for a value gadget on their offspring for that to take place. Sigh. interior the fast term, we've gotta end it in each race. The black ladies that reported as me a racist and threatened to conquer "my cracker b....tch" self up by way of fact I complained to a professor that they weren't returning my calls some team venture could desire to be stopped. the country boys that used to peg apples at anybody they did no longer like the colour or form of in my intense college parking lot could desire to be stopped. So do all bosses that sense that they "desire to hire minorities, the solid ones are impressive workers". no longer all racism is obvious---sometimes it is meant properly, yet below, it stinks. solid success guy---merely comprehend there are those individuals out right here on the different element that provide a crap.

Answer 8

Wow...Yes, I have also grew up in the suburbs...I went to private school until 11th grade ( my parents wanted us to experience public school)...When I first started there sooo many teachers were amazed that I was in advanced classes...They would say things like "Well I have this Black girl in my class...she is "really" smart"...At first I would take offense like what the hell...just because I'm Black....I'm not supposed to be on High honor roll and come to school everyday and take notes. After sometime passed I felt like I had to succeed or I would just be another Black statistic...It wasn't about just doing my best...It became sooo much bigger than that...Other Black students were looking up to me like she as smart as the White students...It just became weirder and weirder...Finally when graduation came around I felt relieved...but once I started college I realized...This is the way it's going to be for the rest of my life...Some Black people will be proud of me and others will call stuck and claim I'm not Black enough...Some White people will always treat me like I'm some weird experiment, other will just accept the fact that I'm intelligent because I actually liked school and love to learn...Don't let it get to you...just keep on being you...

Answer 9

It's not so much the world, I have been to other countries and racism isn't too much of a big thing. It's mostly just the U.S.

Racism is alive and well in the U.S., it's just more like a cancer now instead of a wart.

I say don't really waste too much of your energy worrying about things you can't change, and just do your part to prove the bigots wrong.

Answer 10

Yes #3, I have learned to live with it...nobody has the right to judge me for who I love ☺