I am going to be a surrogate mom for a gay couple. Im always worried im going to offend them if i ask them questions about it...i mean im not trying to pry, just some things im curious about, ya know? Any gay people out here, do you take offense to questions being asked about your sexuality? Also, is "gay people" politically correct? They are from out of state, and i wanted to tell them about this city by me (ferndale, MI) that is very "gay" i guess you would say, high population. But i just dont know how to say that without them taking offense...any guidelines for me? I am going to be talking to these people a lot over the next yr or so, and i want to make sure i dont hurt any feelings along the way.
2007-08-21 10:03:02 · 17 answers · asked by Jessica 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you are honest about it, I wouldn't mind being asked questions. I just can't stand those "So why did to choose to be gay?" bigot questions. I'm sure they know you're not a bigot, so I'm sure they'll be glad to answer your questions.
2007-08-21 10:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be honest with you Jessie, different people have different levels of sensitivity depending on who is asking the questions and why. In your situation, without actually knowing the people involved, the best advice I can give you is not to patronise people. What I mean by that is don't simply ask a question on the grounds of their sexuality if it doesn't necessarily have any relevance to the question e.g "Do Gay people eat greens?" as oppose to "Do you eat greens?" Their sexuality has nothing to do with whether or not they like greens! I know it might sound like I'm stating the obvious, but sometimes people are so busy trying to be all "politically correct" that they forget that they need to be themselves around other people, not the person they think they should be.
If you have questions about what it is to be gay or a gay couple, that is fine, but give them the chance to get know you for who you are and they'll soon realise you're not being insensitive or deliberately unpleasant you're just trying to get to know them better as individuals.
2007-08-21 10:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally am not offended, but some people, gay and otherwise, get angry for no apparent reason. You might try simply asking them if they would be offended if you asked some questions about gay life just because you are curious, making it clear that you have no negative opinions or feelings. They might actually appreciate it.
2007-08-24 07:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre doing a wonderful thing... any couple would be more than happy to answer sincere questions for the "host" of their child.
I would not expect them to permit specific questions regarding their bedroom habits.
Imagine if you were adopting a child... think about which questions you would find offensive and dont ask them.
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2007-08-21 10:18:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you can ask most people questions about being gay. It's good to see someone who wants to know things so each side can get along. It sounds like you're a good person, just be yourself....we're just like anyone else.
2007-08-21 11:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by flash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay to ask even a clumsy question as long as the gay person knows youre trying to understand . in fact , you have to ask a few lame questions to become more knowledable on the subject . Remember , not all gays agree on some issues .
2007-08-21 14:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you even begin to think about asking a heterosexual couple to explain the particular details of their sexual habits?
If you are going to be talking to these people a lot over the next year, asking about their personal sexual habits is not a good opening conversation.
If you are genuinely curious, ask one of your gay friends.
2007-08-21 10:10:15 · answer #7 · answered by ken erestu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have friends that are openly gay and they are both the best friends that a person could ask for. We talk about everything. They also have a new baby named Serenity...be open and honest with them. They will love you for it.
2007-08-21 10:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by deb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't want gory details about the dirty deed, most LGBT people I know don't mind answering questions or talking about it and probably wouldn't take offense. And since you're carrying their child, I'm sure they already trust you quite a bit.
I think you're ok.
2007-08-21 10:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by Clint 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can ask me about being straight and I wont be offended. If they think its so "normal and regular and just my own sexuality" then they shouldnt be offended if you ask them questions about it. Becuase if thats the case they know thier wrong for being fags in the first place. Treat them like ytou do strait people
2007-08-22 04:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋