My finace has two boys. Right now they called me by my first name. Out of respect, what should they call me?

Answer 1

They should continue to call you by your first name. It's not a matter of disrespect when they call you that in fact, it shows that they are close enough to call you by your first name rather than Ms. (first name) or something.
If you mean in regards to you becoming a step mother- you don't want to force them into calling you something they aren't comfortable with.

Answer 2

I am a step mother. I have never wanted them to call me anything other than my first name. I am not their mother. If you are wanting them to call you mom, ask yourself about the problems it could cause. I would not want my child to call anyone else mom if something were to happen between her dad and I. Being a step mother is a very precarious position to hold. You are not mom, but you do want their respect...earn it. You are not blood related, but you want them to love you...love them... unconditionally. A step parent is a very important role, but don't get on a power trip or in a power struggle. Always remember, you are a STEP parent. Your opinion counts, but is not the final say. A child does not want to feel like just because you married dad, you think you are boss.

Answer 3

By your first name. They have a mother so they don't need to be forced into calling you mom. Calling you ms. whatever is to informal. So yea by your first name should be fine. Even when you two get married those children should not have to call you mom. Think about if you had children with your fiance and he left for another woman and your children called some other woman mom. It would piss me off and does. My son was made to call his step mom mom until I found out. She is vicki now.

Answer 4

They should call you by your first name. Forget the BS(respect) attitude or your fiance will be an ex. It's very common of women comming into the relationship of a family and 'demanding respect'. It doesn't happen like that unless you started it at the beginning.

Answer 5

Personally, I think that they should call you by your first name. You are becoming part of their family, which means that you have a close relationship to them. It would be strange for them to call you Mrs. Smith, or something like that. It's too formal for the nature of your relationship.

They aren't going to call you Mom (at least, not at first, maybe they will in the future), so your first name makes the most sense, to me. I don't think it's disrespectful, it just reflects the nature of the relationship you have with them.

Answer 6

Speaking from experience.. let the boys decide what to call you. I've had 2 step mothers and 2 step fathers.. and they were lucky I even said Hello to them.. much less called them by Ms. or Mr. Hopefully you will be a wonderful step mom and they will be delighted to tell people one day that you are their "other mom" or "kinda like a mom to them". Don't push anything on them...

Answer 7

What's wrong with them calling you by the first name? Would you rather them call you Ms. Your Last Name? I think first name is fine. Not sure if you feel they should be calling you "mom" - maybe in time they will, but it is entirely up to them.

Answer 8

My fiance has three kids - they call me "Miss Smith" which works for us. This kind of thing is so subjective. The most polite, respectful title said with sacrasm or comtempt isn't right. It's more about how it's said - and not the words that are used.

Answer 9

Out of respect should be Miss. ??? But it does depend on you and what you are comfortable having them call you, If you are okay with them calling you by your first name. That is okay. That is all up to you.

Answer 10

First of all they are not your children and they are calling you by your first name what should they call you besides this.
To be perefectly honest would you like for them to address you as ms. Thats the only thing i could think of.

best of luck