I have been with my man for a year now..I love him..and wehave a child on the way..however...his friends are LOSERS who i have tried to get to know and somehwta like but even the girls I find annoying. It does cause issues for us here and there say like when one of his friends throws a party and I dont want to go because I feel uncomfortable. I have been told by some friends that this is going to tear our relationship apart. Any advice??
2007-08-21 09:48:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are in love with your boyfriend not his friends. remember that. you do not need to get to know his friends only him..
2007-08-28 22:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dominic the one hand bandit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The relationship can work, if you keep people like this out of your life. It's very important that you will be around positive people you have a child on the way. Have you share this with your mate, have you really told him how you feel. You will have to make a chose, will this affect the child that we are bringing into this world. Your mate need to focus now that he is going to be a father, his party days are about to be over, and if you don't feel good being around his friends, you don't have to be. Drinking smoking that is not good for your child on the way. So what I would do is tell your man again and tell him if he doesn't change maybe we do not need to be together, do you love him because of the child or you love him because he is with you right now. Is he really ready to be a father right now. Your health and safety and more important then him throwing wild party. Tell him he need to grow up and taking responsibility as a father.
2007-08-29 15:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his friends truly are losers & he is not, then as he matures he will find that he has less & less in common with them. I'm not saying he'll hate them all or anything, but they won't hang out as much.
You don't need to like his friends, they're his, not yours. It's not a good idea to sit & bash on them though, it'll just put him on the defensive. If you don't want to go to a party one of his friends is throwing, then don't go. But don't try to stop him from going. Everyone needs time away from their significant other, no matter how much they love them.
This will only tear apart your relationship if you let it. Just be mature & take the high road.
2007-08-28 22:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something u have to speak to ur man about. If he cares enough about u which by the sounds of it he does otherwise u wouldn't have had a child together. U let him know how u feel and if he doesn't try to change things then maybe he doesn't care and u should get out of there. Good Luck x
2007-08-28 14:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your having a baby friends wont matter soon!! You will be to busy with your new bundle of joy. If you to love eachother you will work it out! I agree with the others that you need to tell him how you feel. Dont let this silly little thing get between you! Soon you will find your self hanging out with new people who have kids and know what your going thru. Good Luck
2007-08-22 10:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by RaylizD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might need to loosen up abit. why dont you try to have fun. maybe that is the reason why you feeling uncomfortable because your uptight. not to be mean. but if you do keep like acting this way then yall might most likely break up. men dont like to fight. it seems these days men just want to play around and dont things seriously these days. and women are so classy and uptight. which is good. we are more mature. i would just loosen up and have and try to have a goodtime for your man.
2007-08-28 11:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by grumpyjen28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it probably will because if you dont like his friends that means that you dont really like him . everyone is a reflection of their friends . I know some of my husbands friends i did not like at first and he asked me why i did not like them and I told him flat out why . He told me that if i wanted not to like them then that was up to me but it would hurt our relationship so I just try to grin and bear them for the little while we are around them . good luck dear .
2007-08-21 16:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure the relationship can work,the two of you are what makes the relationship( soon there will be the three of you.) You don't have to like his friends,and they don't have to like you..Good Luck.
2007-08-29 16:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by Here Kitty Kitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. let him know about your feelins. look i have a boyfriend and we've been datin for 3months already. i hate 2 of his friends. i really hate them. i want to be friends with them but after what i had heard it hurt me. talk it out it will help
2007-08-21 16:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by honey + biscuit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM SRRY NO
2007-08-21 16:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by kvb95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋