Me and this girl have been friends since 9th grade, but during the 12th we got really close. She started dating a guy. Everything was good for about the 1st month and half but after that he started treating her like crap. She called me like every other day complaining and asking what should she do. she never took my advice and would just do what i told her she shouldnt. Well she put up with him for about a year. she just recently starts dating this other guy and tells me that after being with him 1 week she wants to sleep with him. I told her she shouldnt because its so early. well today she calls me crying b/c the guy dumped her and she did sleep with him. Now shes asking my what she sould do. I dont know what to tell her anymore. Im really tired of hearing all the complaining and does that make me such a bad friend?......what should i do, or tell her.
2007-08-21 09:46:07 · 58 answers · asked by kriscougar07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People change and friends get annoying. Your relationship sounds very one-sided to me. So she's the type of person that doesn't take good advice (just like all of us)... she won't change unless she wants to change. It may be a long time before she comes to her senses, so can you live with the way she is? If you can't ignore her problems, then perhaps it's time to break the ties. Maybe she's a friend that belongs in your past.
2007-08-21 10:01:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She didn't really in the past, but she does more now. She has changed a lot, and the thing that gets on my nerves the most is that she's trying to push me into following along with her changes. It's like she thinks that because she changed, I need to change too or else we won't be friends anymore.
2016-05-19 01:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by gisele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime that you spend allot of time with someone, they are bound to get on your nerves. Nothing gets on a persons nerves like whining. Your friend however really needs you right now. You gave her half way decent advice. The guy just wanted to sleep with her to begin with. For girls, it is hard to see through all the b.s. that guys throw out there. Help her through this. Once she isn't feeling really bad about herself. Have a talk with her, tell her like a real friend what is bothering you. However, soften the blow and be nice about it. You never know, your constant cheerfulness just might bug her. That's just a guess, but you never know. One thing friends are good at is being polite when the truth is what is really needed...Good luck.....
2007-08-21 09:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by drenchzgrinch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her not to ask you for advice anymore. She obviously does not really respect anything you tell her. I have a friend like this. We live in different states and she will call me wanting me to spend hours on the phone with her - always wanting to ONLY discuss her problems, and any advice I have ever given her (which she asks for) her comeback is "But, I can't do that because of blah, blah, blah." It's always the same with her. If I hadn't known her for over 20 years as a friend, I would drop her in a heartbeat, because it's ALWAYS about HER. It's just exhausting and she is never satisfied even though she has everything she wants and is spoiled rotten by her father and husband.
2007-08-21 09:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like that. Well, I tell my friend that if she's going to ignore my advice not to ask for it. But when she's sad and all I can't just be mean to her, you know? So usually when she's all sad because some guy dumped her I go rent a happy movie and then get chocolate and junk food and stuff and we watch the movie and eat the food. That was she can't talk and ask for my advice she doesn't plan on taking, but she still feels a little better afterwards.
2007-08-21 09:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Chelsea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how good of friends youa re with someone they will get on your nerves at one point and time. Next time she calls you with problems like that simply say "Girl I really love you like a sister and you are my best friend ever, but Im not going to keep giving you advice and waisting my time because you are going to do whatever you want anyways. So only ask me for advice if you intend on using it. Because anything I tell you would never be to hurt you, only to help." Say it very concerning and nice. I would be frustrated too!
Good Luck!!!
2007-08-21 09:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they sometimes get on my nerves. When that happens maybe it is time for a little separation. A few days of being busy and not getting a chance to talk to or be around your friend always seems to help.
No, that does not make you a bad friend. It's just human nature.
2007-08-21 09:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by ♥chicks♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just sounds like your friend has a lot of issues, and you shouldn't blame yourself for that. part of being a friend means you have to listen to her complain. you should take it as an honor, because obviously, she respects your opinion, even if she doesn't always take your advice. what she should do is spend some time alone. it seems as if she's looking for love in all the wrong places and she needs to get to know her wants and needs better before she complicates her life with any man.
2007-08-21 09:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make you a bad friend. If she's not going to take your advice, she needs to stop seeking it. However, as a good friend you should be there to support her even when she makes poor choices. Just let her know that you're not going to advise her on her love life anymore, because she doesn't choose to listen to you, and that way you cannot be upset at her for not doing as you suggested when things end up going south.
2007-08-21 09:49:41 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you is to be patient and try helping her out, that is if she needs your help otherwise just ignore! Give her an advice in a way that she would listen and won't mind. Tell her to get busy in an activity. That's all I got !
2007-08-21 09:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by persykitten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋