2007-08-21 09:22:57 · 17 answers · asked by msblkbtrfly69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh, that's easy. Stop taking birth control. Wait a second! I didn't say "without telling him". No, do tell him. Tell him when you stop, and, next time you have sex, remind him that you're not on birth control before he penetrates you. Then when your little "accident" happens, he will have only himself to blame, because you gave him fair warning.
Later edit: How interesting! Nena S above me automatically assumed you wanted no more children but that your husband did, and I assumed exactly the opposite! I wonder which one it really is???
2007-08-21 09:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Marriage is about compromise. It sounds like you already have children with him. Therefore, you need to decide if more children is more important to you then a happy husband. Sit down and really communicate with him about your reasons. Maybe he will enlighten you to reasons why you should not. Sometimes in life we need to appreciate what we have and stop wanting more. Try not to get angry with him. Having more children is a very big decision and he has every right to have an opinion on it. Be gentle with him, show him how the children have made your life more meaningful and etc. You never know he might change his mind once he knows how important it is to you. Just don't hound him about it.
2007-08-21 16:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by Junebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. And the planet will thank you both. With 6.5+
billion of us already on this tiny grain of sand, global warming a reality, the cost of raising one child to age 18 at now over $250,000, and this absolutely being the last good century in which to live, if you have one already, and that child is healthy, be the best parents you can be to help this child become all it can be. Just as this planet needs no more dogs, it as well needs no more children... yours, mine, nor any one else's.
2007-08-21 17:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting the lottery would help or you getting a job paying over 100.000 a year would do the trick other then that there isn't.You didn't tell us anything, so we are guessing that you already have 1 or 2 kids. If that isn't the case and you want your first child and he does not i would venture to say he might be seeking other options as far as your marriage goes.
2007-08-21 19:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. If your views and his views on this subject can not be agreed on then you should get a divorce. I know that seems extreme.. but just imagine if for some reason you got pregnant again.. what would happen...? there would be blame and suspicion and stress.... it would tear the marriage apart...
there is nothing you can say that will change his mind.
2007-08-21 16:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't! It is HIS mind...he changes it when HE is ready.
Besides, he probably has good reasons for not wanting more children...you should have discussed this with him prior to getting married, rather than get into the marriage with differing expectations about something so serious as having children.
2007-08-21 16:26:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
read the articles on child free by choice, search the web, tons of articles. do not have more children if one of you does not want to. more and more people do not want to have children at all nowadays, both man and woman. It's a choice that people CAN make.
2007-08-21 16:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit down and calmly explain to him your reasons for not wanting more kids. I'm sure you must have a couple that are valid !
Try telling him that pregnancy is uncomfortable; that the delivery is excrutiatingly painful; that the recovery and the stress of dealing with yet another infant is too much for you to handle. And also remind him of all the expenses a pregnancy entails: doctors' visits, hospital, medicines....not to mention a pediatrician, shots and vaccines and education for the child.
Good luck..It's your body,and you shouldn't be forced into having another child just because HE feels like it!
2007-08-21 16:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does he want them or no? If yes, then you need to discuss it together, and come to a conclusion. If no, same thing, and no trapping him into it. Either way, no nagging. We women don't change our minds about anything until we are ready, and sometimes we never do, the same goes for men.
2007-08-21 16:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You talk to him and present your reasons for feeling the way you do about having more kids. He might think it over and eventually agree with you. But you can't exactly go in and "change his mind" by force; it doesn't work this way.
2007-08-21 16:27:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
why does he have to back down? there are 2 other options.
1. compromise
2. You back down
maybe he doesn't see the relationship as stable and doesn't want to pay horrendous amounts of child support, if you decide to kick him out.
maybe the finances don't stretch far enough for the additions.
who knows............maybe him.
question is vague.
2007-08-21 16:42:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋