how sometimes is right about things with me (even though i don,t ask her) but other times she gets on my nerves, she will say the reason you acted like this is because you had a bad childhood, not everything can be due to my childhood. she thinks she knows everything and gets on my nerves, why do some people do this
2007-08-21 07:13:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think intelligent people show an open mind on most matters and debate a topic in order to learn. Those who are not so bright are the ones who know it all.
In fact they seldom listen or try to learn because they don't have to. Do they?
2007-08-21 07:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Spiny Norman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there was one thing I could tell you, it would be no one knows you better than yourself.
This lady friend or hopefully this is a friend of yours, is just one of the many people we meet. Many people act they think they know it all because they are too used to being the person with all the right answers. No one really opposes them to think differently or look upon things in a different perspectitve from the one they have, so they grow into one of those habits where thier actions are thought to be the only "right" reason why things happen or why things are the way they are. The key word in this whole paragraph is defining what the word "right" means.
I think there are too many definitions of "right" (as well as "wrong") that a person eventually chooses a definition of thier own to live by. It seems like its her way or the highway.
I think as a friend or as yourself, you should talk to her about the way she criticizes your actions. Tell her it bothers you and that you wish for her to stop analyzing you and start treating you as a person rather than a research object. One of the arguements you can use on her is that you don't treat her like a research object and second, friends don't constantly assume each other actions but rather ask about them and allow thier friends to do thier own thing.
Anyways I hoped this helped. Best of luck.
2007-08-21 14:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish people knew everything! But she sounds older than you and if she has had bad experiences in her life maybe she does. Some people are curious about things and like to find out about different things, maybe shes one of those. She is right about the bad childhood thing because we learn our patterns from a very young age and we continue with them into adulthood, its letting go of those patterns that's hard.
If she gets on your nerves that bad I suggest you stay away.
2007-08-21 17:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by djdundalk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people do this to get away from what ever problem is troubling them and they usually dont want to think about it so they point out and talk about someone elses
some poples insecurities get the better of them and actually make them give opinions on things they dont know anything about to make themselves feel worth more than they do normally
some people genuinely want to and think they are helping
some people are nosy and want to know details about you and this can be a way of getting you to spill some
some people want to give advice while getting rid of some information and thoughts they have learned and experienced locked inside aka purging
some people learn things and like to share and help with that knowledge
some people love their own opinions too much
it sounds like she thinks you need and want her advise on everything probably due to you asking her once for it at some point and a mixture of some of the above ie purging, helping love of own opinion.
all you do is tell her firmly 'thanks for the advise last time but i want to try to sort this one out myself' and then end with 'is it ok if i call you tho when i do need your help'. that way the balls in your court and you are able to bring up that you hadnt asked her yet if she starts to advise you without you wanting her to
2007-08-21 14:28:53 · answer #4 · answered by froufrou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not a person in the world who can claim they know everything in life there is to know. If you don't want the ladys opinion tell her so, and walk away. If you ask her then she has every right to speak what she thinks.
2007-08-21 14:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by painterlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that are usually people who are unhappy with their own lives and to destruct themselves from that is, by meddling in other people's business.
The next time this woman gives you advise, just say it calmly that you do appreciate that she is trying to help, but you will appreciate it if she doesn't. If she has sense, she will get the point and live you alone.
2007-08-21 15:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by soraya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assigning reason to everything is probably her way of establishing control. People like her usually have very messy personal lives, so they try to create order wherever possible. My sisters are like this.
2007-08-21 14:23:57 · answer #7 · answered by misswrite1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... avoid her and don't tell her nothing else.
She is probably just trying to be helpful or a friend to you in her own way. If she is older, it could be mothering instinct.
Just don't let her know things about you, and if she tries to pry, just change the subject on her.
2007-08-21 14:22:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aha ha! You sound just like my Mum......She hates that too!
Some people are just like that I guess.....Takes all sorts to make the world go round! Some people really believe that they know everything.......& if you were to say different they would probably be really confused.....Aha ha!
I just Humour people like that & say.... "oooh really"
Take Care
2007-08-21 14:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Maryann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are bullies by nature and think their opinion is more important than anyone elses. Dont worry about it, just keep your distance.
2007-08-21 14:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋