My mother in law knows my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant and she calls my husband at 6am and wakes us up to let us know his sister is pregnant. I am pissed and a little jealous.
2007-08-21 05:45:22 · 21 answers · asked by Lisa 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I can understand why you'd be mad but I mean she's excited and wanted to let your brother know! I had a miscarriage in early July, and My sister in law is pregnant and going through a divorce she already has one baby she doesn't take care of! Trust me I KNOW why you're mad! She got pregnant the same time as me! She called a few days ago to tell us she's having a boy and I was pissed! Because she smokes and everything and she still has her baby and I was doing every thing I could to be healthy and I lost mine!
But we just gotta suck it up, Try not to let things bother you and stress you out! Enjoy making a baby! Don't turn it into a chore!
Good Luck!
2007-08-21 05:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by silverokie19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed too. That sounds like something my mother-in-law would do. I'm sure she was excited but I honestly don't know why she would make it a point to call first thing in the morning. Is she always like that? If she is, I know how you feel and I'm sorry that you have to deal with that.
My husband and I have been trying for 14 months. We had a miscarriage in Nov. A very good friend of mine sent me an email Sat morning telling me that she was pregnant. She didn't plan it. She was scared to tell me because she was afraid that it would upset me too bad if she called me. It was hard on me because we thought we were pregnant and found out that morning that we weren't.
That could be why your mother-in-law called but it was definitely not necessary to call that early in the morning.
2007-08-21 15:16:37 · answer #2 · answered by angelamc31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the mother in law calling at 6 am is always a no no. Perhaps she should have thought it through before calling to tell you someone else's good news. Especially when you are trying too.
I would just forget about it. Her getting pregnant has nothing to do with you. You and your hubby should just keep on trying. Call and congratulate your sister in law, she was probably too nervous to call you because she knows you were trying too. Call her and let her know that you are excited for her.
2007-08-21 13:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by Katie C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be pissed that it was done that way, but if you show that you're unhappy, it will make things worse. My husband and i suffered a miscarriage 3 years ago and went through fertility treatments this year and are currently pregnant. we waiting until after the miscarriage stage to say something to everyone, before we could do that, my sister who has a 7 year old announced that she was pregnant. i could care less because we aren't close, but she is unhappy once she found out my news. my dad and grandma have also had to deal with her being unhappy and don't know what to do about her and she's older than me... you will be pissed and you will be jealous, but your time will come, you just have to be happy for your sister in law and set things aside or it can strain any friendship or relationship there is.
2007-08-21 13:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by techgirl2007a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I'll do you three better. About 3 months after I announced my engagement and asked my sister to be my maid of honor, she said she was pregnant. It happens. Then, a month before my wedding, when she was 6 months along, she elopes in Germany. Awesome wedding gift, huh. Then, three months after her daughter was born, she calls to tell me she's pregnant again.
Here's the kicker, she didn't want either pregnancy. She never wanted kids at all, and still thinks that way.
My hubby just shrugs it off, but I'm stressing about my parents attitude towards me now, and the fact that I want a baby badly, and my sister keeps getting them. I totally understand where you're coming from. I guess you'll just have to be the bigger person though and be happy for your sis-in-law. Just make sure your mom-in-law know that paybacks are a b****.
Good luck on the baby making.
2007-08-21 13:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dream_Weaver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you and your husband are having a tough time getting pregnant. It probably feels like every time someone else gets pregnant they are just rubbing it in your face.
Honestly, I doubt your mother-in-law even was thinking about your struggles with fertility. She was only excited (and assumed your husband would be also) about her daughter being pregnant.
It seems like you are more than a little jealous and that jealousy has jaded your view of joy in others' lives. Remember that you too will have your moment of glory and be happy for others rather than resenting them so that they can some day be happy for you.
Best of luck!
2007-08-21 12:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Aubrey and Braeden's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand. My two sister-in-laws to be are both pregnant, my best friend is pregnant, my AUNT is pregnant, and my other aunt thinks that she could be. I am in the same boat. I want to be a mother so bad, yet, it doesnt seem to happen. You have a reason to be pissed and jealous, but, just use it as a learning experience. Dont let it get you down. Take her mistakes and use them to your advantage. When you say "I will never.......(however you will NOT raise your child) WRITE it down...remember it.
2007-08-21 12:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by ***Expecting My First Child*** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant and had a miscarriage and every one in my family is pregnant right now. My mother n law likes to call and try to talk to me about all of the baby stuff. I just ignore her and change the subject.
2007-08-21 13:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Annoyed at 6am, and probably the tone in her voice.
Although....she is happy for them, and wanted to maybe share the happy feelings or pregnancy to help you along, not knowing it would hurt you so much.
Sometimes people do things without thinking. Also you become very sensitive to other peoples pregnancies when TTC, and act different then you normally would if you weren't TTC. Be happy for her, this is just as important to her and your family as it will be to you and yours.
2007-08-21 13:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by vegface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first i would say that she was just excited about it. but now that i think about it. she was just being a *****. lol oops i didnt mean to laugh (yes i did) OMG 6AM to tell you that? i could see if she waited till the next time you guys talked and brought it up casually but hell.... she just wanted you to feel bad. If i were you, i just have awesome non stop kinky sex with my husband and after a few weeks announce at 3:30 in the morning that she's gonna be a gramma.
2007-08-21 15:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by MokahMama313 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋