My husband and I have always taken turns initiatating sex. But it always ends up being about him. He says thats the way its suppose to be since he provides for our family in other ways. We have been married approx. 3yrs and we never had problems before. Actually it was the other way around. He refuses to talk about it and I'm not sure what to do. I would like to have my love life back.
2007-08-21 05:11:42 · 25 answers · asked by Blondie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is absolutely WRONG! it is not about him, it's about both of you...and actually my thought on the matter is that it's about the female first and then the male....he should take care of you before he starts to think about himself!
Have him trade places with you for a day, men cannot handle the daily routine that women have...especially when there are kids involved...
Tell him to man up and take care of his woman!
2007-08-21 05:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Cupcakes Moosey! 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
the two get some counseling w the hubby *my advice* get a vibrator or recover from it not tryin to be recommend yet there is not lots you're able to do approximately it if ur unwilling to bend on the 1st 2 except you opt to cheat on ur husband *not pronounced* some human beings could desire to even see this as impolite or "snide" yet sugar coating it doesnt help or exchange the certainty you're sexually frusterated and having probs w ur husband, taking the ingredient off urself could be a robust difficulty esp once you cant share that with the guy you opt for because of the fact of regardless of reason. in any different case the only difficulty u can do is cope with it and pass forward. like i suggested not tryin to be impolite yet cant incredibly say the rest it is gonna make a distinction
2016-10-16 08:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when it comes to sex, it's always a problem with most men. I think you should try to remember what you guys used to do before all this problem started.
Doing what you used to do will make your sex life satisfying.(Because unsatisfying sex can be very Upsetting and Frustrating.)
Unless he is getting it some where else. But if not, You try to enjoy the moment and satisfy yourself before giving him what will make him finish before you.
If it is always about him, than let it be about you also. He will
probably jerk off in the bathroom so my dear why not do the same in the bathroom or under the sheets too. WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND!
2007-08-21 05:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by lukorma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What we have here is an example of the complications of marriage. Who could have thought that it would work out this way for you two? By the way, it is very common to have sexual dysfunction in marriages.
So, let me ask you to stick to one thing...no blame please.
If you want your love life back..fight for it..communicate. Sex starts in the mind, and it kinda lives there most of the time. The physical side is but a symbolic expression of what goes on in the mind. You'll know best how to fight for it, but I would recommend this as the best route forward for you.
Intellectualize, to energise. Don't compete..it's silly and destructive. Rather become friends again..and talk. You both sound terribly lonely...it's up to you two to fix it..no one else.
Good luck.
2007-08-21 05:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by justaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this; don't give him anything for a while. I know, you're looking for more, but if you hold out, it will defniately send a message. Might even open up a dialouge between you two. Tell him EXACTLY what you want in bed, and insist that you get it; at least take turns taking care of each other.
I can't believe you never thought of that. Women have been using sex as a weapon for years....
2007-08-21 05:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He SAID that??? He must know that is the most selfish, stupid logic listed lately. You BOTH have roles and responsibility in the marriage. He does not deserve to be a selfish jerk just because he is working or providing in whatever way he does. Are you kidding?
Get a vibrator and let him know you are not tolerating his selfish, stupid behavior. He can get with the program or get familiar with his hand in a big hurry. It is his choice to be a selfish jerk and your choice not to tolerate it and to limit his ability to upset you. I would not be used by the man who is supposed to love me. Forget it.
You two are supposed to be best friends. He is supposed to be the one there for you. If not him, then who??? What is his problem? I suggest he get honest and get real and get back into his marriage if he wants to keep one.
2007-08-21 05:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, he may not want to talk about it, but you need to tell him that how he provides for the family in other ways has nothing to do with your sex life. Is he concerned that 'chores' are not being divided equally and he considers this a 'chore' to please you? Tell him that you provide for your family in other ways too, so maybe you shouldn't want to please him anymore. I don't think he will want you to turn the tables like that, but it may get him to talk about it.
2007-08-21 05:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by Linda K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. man what is it like being married to a cave man?
Seriously though.. this is the type of crap that causes divorces and cheating.
Get some counseling.. or end the marriage.
2007-08-21 05:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by umannjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Blondie, Hon while men are supposed to be the providers, they are also supposed to satisfy their wife and childrens needs ! Talk to him, there is a deeper problem there.
2007-08-21 05:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to get some marriage counseling. Schedule an appointment and go to it whether or not he goes with you. He sounds like he's being very selfish. Why would you not want to show someone you love how much you love them and want to satisfy them? He needs to take a serious look at his priorities in this relationship. And you need to take a big look at how long you are going to let him treat you like an animal. This is abuse!!!!!
2007-08-21 05:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋