What do you think I should do in this situation?

Question

I am a 19 year old girl, living with my father but want to move out VERY soon. I am not in college right now because I am thinking of what I want to take this September/January.

I have just quit a job, two days ago. That I have been doing since I was 18.

I really don't like the job anymore because I find it really degrading and I regret what I do when I actulally do the job. It also make my relationship with my boyfriend stressful and I have already lost one boyfriend from this job before.

Yesterday I was feeling strong and not wanting to go back to the job but now, today I am feeling like I want to go back because I don't have a job now and I have bills to pay :(.
Plus I hate not having any money.


What do you think I should do in this situation?
Please only serious answers!

The job is stripping. :(

Answer 1

You will have problem to leave this job, because you making allot of money, and without education, you probably can make around minimum wages some ware else. Yes, not all the man can except this, and you will have problems with your relationships. Just don't quit school. This is very hard decision you have to make. Good Luck if you are smart you be OK!

Answer 2

No matter how much money you earn, you will always have bills and you will always need more money. Whether you have a little or a lot. You will also always have to live with your decisions. The little ones and the big ones.

You have to decide what is more important; your personal integrity and how you feel about yourself, OR your need to make money. I would hope that you would try to live a life that would make you feel good about yourself, that would help you to see that there are things in life that are greater than ourselves. The personal pride you gain from making decisions like this far outway the money you might make.

The truth is, you probably are not even aware of all the things you could do to earn a living. You have talents that have nothing to do with what you currently do. You may even have dreams that you want to fulfill. You can learn new things, explore all the things you don't know about this life and our world. Maybe you'll meet a nice guy, settle down, have kids. Is any of that likely in your current career path??

Get a job that makes minimum wage for now. Live with dad, save your money. But try to live a good, honest life. You don't have any reason to trust me, but I will ask you to anyway. Trust me. It will pay off in the end.

Answer 3

For starters find another job that you can tolerate while you work your way through school. If you don't like living with your father, keep in mind that it is cheaper than being on your own. Besides, if you are working and going to school you will rarely be at home so no worries there. As for the boyfriend, gosh don't worry about it. A BF should be the last thing on your mind. You don't need one to feel secure you will meet new friends while going to school and at your new job to hang with. Make something of yourself first and the BF thing will take care of itself. Chances are that you will find a better BF anyway when you are a little older, have worked your way through school and have a job you love. Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm sure you are qualified to do a different job. I'm 100% sure of that. So seek a different line of work. Work as a temporary clerk if you need to until you can figure out what different office jobs are available to you. Take the Civil Service Test and see if you can work for the post office. Since when is there only one type of work available to you?
But I made x amount of dollars and I can't make that in a different job?
So learn how to live on less money for awhile (maybe still at home) and then improve your salary the way everyone else does - by finding out what your skills are and what skills the job market is looking for and where you can make better money given your skills.
Everyone else does it. So can you.

Answer 5

I don't know what the job is so that makes it hard to answer.To quit without notice is never right unless there are extenuating circumstances. Go back if you can, look for a different job, meanwhile, tough it out till you find something else. You have responsibilities and bills to pay.
Just saw what your job is. Hit the pavement and find another job!! This is extenuating circunstances! There are other jobs out there, maybe the money is good- but money is not worth your self esteem, all the money in the world can not make you feel good about yourself, and that's what really matters, isn't it? Feeling like you are worth something? Isn't that why people buy things to look nice or nice cars etc? to feel good? Well, what good is money if it's never going to be enough for you to feel good about yourself?

Answer 6

Listen cutie...There are many other opportunities out there for work. Ask yourself these questions (and do not allow your feelings to get in the way. Put them aside) and you will see what you should do afterwards...First let me tell you that I have dated a few women that were strippers, but this last one I finally gave her the ultimatum to choose between her job or me. She chose me! I have made her as happy as a princess ever since. Its hard on any guy to share thier woman! Ask yourself this...What are you attracted to in this job? Is it the money? Is it the attention? What? There are other jobs that pay good money where you dont have to be rejected by some of society to do it. I am not saying that stripping is wrong, but I do feel that it is very degrading to women for them to have to lower themselves to show their bodies to other grovelling men (mostly married), who dont know how to take care of a woman in the first place. Kind of ironic isnt it...Secondly, ask yourself this question...Would your family life, social life, and your pride and values be better or benefit if you stopped stripping? I bet the answer is yes...All you got to do is believe in yourself and just let god lead you where you are supposed to be...Go back to stripping if you want to, but eventually you will be left all alone, with nobody who truly cares for you and a bunch of guys trying their damndest to screw you! You must be very cute! Good luck and contact me if you need support! I am a soldier in Iraq and I could use the company!

Answer 7

I think you need to get a real job. Not something that makes you degrade yourself for money. The next step is prostitution. My question to you is this: why didn't you save some of the money you made from stripping? Surely you know that, even if you start it again, you can't do it forever. I think now, while you're living at home, is time to start on the straight and narrow. That's what I would do - get a real job.

Answer 8

Sign up for college right away--that's always a good first step. Even if you don't know what you want to do, the first few semesters are mostly made up of required classes. In the meantime, try to get a part time job somewhere else--I'm sure that this is not the only job you can do.

Answer 9

My advice to you is that you can find another job. A job that stressful is not needed. If you have bills then get out there and find a better job. If you hadn't quit yet I would have said to find a job before quitting but thats not the case. So find another job. Too much stress on the body is not good. Get a paper...look online and get a better job. Good luck.

Answer 10

find a job that you like, and one that doesn't make you feel bad about yourself and doesn't interfere with your relationships. Everyone has to have some means of making money, but you don't have to degrade yourself while doing it. I would say that your best bet would be to find a part-time job somewhere while you figure out what you are going to do with college. Then you can go to college when you decide to and keep your job, (if you'd like) and still be making money. If you want to move out of your fathers house you will need to have a job, just find one you don't mind doing.