wife recently ran into an old buddy she use to pty w/in the club scene allot. hes married and hasnt called my wife but a few times over say that last 2 months. he did call her on her bday she has went to the club a couple of times since they ran bk into each other. i always get invited but she knows i wont go. the last couple of times she went she came in after 6am. i expressed concern and am now willing 2 go w/her when she goes again. she also recently told me that she & her old friend recently agreed that if they were ever single again that they would marry so they wouldn't be alone. she told me this herself & said it was just when they were drinking at the club and bs around. she wants 2 go this wknd & has invited me. i am worried however that the event has the possibility to turn sour. i know she enjoys going out 2 the club every so often and i want her 2 b happy but i don't want 2 loose her either. i also dont want to step on her fun bc i feel she will resent me. HELP!
2007-08-21 04:22:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to the club. But don't go just with the intention of keeping an eye on her. Go and have fun. The event will definitely turn sour if you sit in a corner not wanting to be there. You need to be in on this action and see what's going on between the 2 of them. One of 2 things will happen. Either you'll all have such a great time, you'll all become fast friends and hang out together all the time - or your wife will stop inviting you to the club and will stop telling you about her evening....when that happens, you'll know something is afoot...
2007-08-21 04:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had more respect for you she wouldn't be out clubbing with this friend. Where's his wife when they go out? If it makes you feel uncomfortable or anything like that, you should tell her. Maybe if you guys set some guidelines for her going out. Perhaps if you went with her, but agreed that you guys would leave for home at a certain time.
In my opinion, you can't have a healthy relationship if you don't communicate. Make sure she knows that you are worried, but also don't want to restrict her. Just sit down and discuss it.
2007-08-21 11:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by bjorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you wouldn't be "stepping on her fun if you went with and had some yourself. It wouldn't be "spying"you would be participating in a part of her life that she enjoys and having a blast too! By "not" going, you make yourself a drag, you say you don't care about what she does by herself, and don/t support her or your marriage at all! Get some balls! show her you care and be with her and them, have fun, it will only last for a while. If she values your relationship,she will tone it down a bit after a while and get back to normal.otherwise, get his wifes no# and call her a let her know what is happening(unless she is having fun too!) she probably is...without you...
2007-08-21 11:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. "Diamond" 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good communication is still the best remedy to solve any relationship problem. This is a family matters, therefore it is proper that you consult your wife about this. Try open up things to her. And, time is very important to a relationship. Sacrificing to give the best quality time to your partner means a lot. You must understand your partner in terms of many things, maybe you have your own lackings. You need to check yourself as well. Hope this would help.
2007-08-21 11:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Hedwig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a married woman. She has no business staying out all night with anyone but her husband. The fact that she told you about their marrying each other pact if they were both single is no big deal. I have a pact like that with one of my friends, but I don't advertise it.
2007-08-21 11:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go.
How else are you going to be-able to relax when she goes out alone.
You need to see with your own eyes that everything is okay.
You will know if she acts different when he is around, that will tell you what you need to know and do.
2007-08-21 11:36:58 · answer #6 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will lsoe her if you leave her to this guy alone you need to go and be with her all the time period. this is not choice its smart. good luck
2007-08-25 00:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋