can someone tell me what judge would award custody to people that accused my son of sexual abuse to my exs gfs daughter...someone told me today that my ex is still gonna fight me for custody even though they accused him of this ,,,they are tellin people all the want my son to do is confess to it get him help and make it thru all this....
first off my son didnt do it.
second my sons will never step foot back into that womens house.
third i would rather be in jail then to allow my sons to go over again ever.
july 20th he told the boys he didnt want to see them anymore and he picked his gf over his own sons..
what is wrong with theses ppl? can someone plz tell me
2007-08-21 04:13:48 · 6 answers · asked by tinalee1972 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's mess up there, sweetie! It's doesn't make any since either but, if I were you I would ask my lawyer to investigate why or ex still wants you son!
2007-08-29 03:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by mrsalramey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son has been accused of something and they are trying to get him professional help, innocent or not (and mothers always believe the child) the judge is gonna look at that as a good thing. Plain and simple.
If you are truly concerned get an attorney and get your child counseling. Innocent or guilty, being accused of something like this warrants some therapy too. Most judges have heard the old 'my son didn't do it' so many times it is pathetic. Not saying he did or didn't just saying you need more proof than mommy's word. And you need to show proof that you are doing everything possible to meet your child's needs. Including mental health.
And, if the judge gives him custody or visitation, you can't choose his mates just as he can't choose yours. Voicing your opinion about her or him in front of you child is a major mistake and will just cause you major problems down the line, as one day your child will resent you for it.
You just have to be loving and supportive, but not naive, and make sure you never mouth off about the other parent or their mate in front of your child. Life is hard enough for children when parents are fighting without feeling you have to choose sides between parents.
Judges want to foster relationships between both parents. and their child(ren). And no parent is perfect. I guarantee you that you aren't either. If you were held under a microscope there would be flaws showing too. Put aside your anger toward your ex and be nice. You need to do everything you can to make your child's life easy. And sucking it up and being nice to his dad is part of it. His dad is his dad for life. If he isn't the greatest dad, remember you choose to have a child with this loser, so you own a big portion of this.
2007-08-29 10:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to calm down, so that you can think rationally. I know that it is hard at this point but he truth is, You will do your children more harm than good in jail. What you need to do is go to child protective services and ask to speak with someone. If you don't get help there go to your local police or sheriffs department ask to speak to someone there. Make as many law officials aware of the situation and ask for help everywhere you can think to. Someone somewhere is bound to have some information on what you can do to prevent them from abusing your children. And yes it's abuse when a person is being ridiculed or tormented verbally.
2007-08-28 13:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Funeeegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK! How old is your son? Ex's GF daughter? Police called? What happened? It doesn't make sense that they would want custody when there was supposed abuse by your son to the GF daughter. That doesn't make sense. I think you may need professional help to protect yourself- they don't sound like they are playing with a full deck!
2007-08-21 11:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Down to earth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people give up too easily
2007-08-29 06:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of men are not sober at all, and they hurt whenever they are stupid....
2007-08-27 00:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by chocolate929 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋