2007-08-21 03:58:19 · 24 answers · asked by babymies2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
please be extremely careful and watchful. My husband done the same thing and then they would meet after work and lets just say I had to find out from her husband all that was going on. She left her husband for my husband and my husband left me for her. So, only 1 month later i started dating and guess what, he could be with someone else but jealousy kicked in and he came back crying and begging. I took him back but unfortunately i regret it now because I can not trust him and I don't love him like I did before. Good Luck and Best Wishes
2007-08-21 09:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a married man. There's a woman I work with who I like -- she's fun, friendly, interesting, and easy to talk to. I suppose I could call her a friend (although I personally tend to use a fairly strict definition of that word). However, a long time ago, I told her that I could not go to lunch with her alone. If we had someone else with us, that would be fine. I explained that I think it's a bad idea to even *look* like you might be misbehaving even if you're not. She understood that boundary, and we have never crossed it. I believe your husband should establish the same boundary. If he's going to lunch alone with this girl, the way that looks gives off the impression that he's not a married man.
2007-08-21 11:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there others that eat lunch with them too, or do they separate themselves from others? Are you having problems in your marriage? Do you have trust and/or insecurity issues? Are there any "red flags" that lead you to believe it is more than just lunch?
I'm assuming he tells you about him having lunch with her, which is a clear sign that he has nothing to hide from you.
I have a co-worker who has lunch or chit chats with one of the cute girls in the office. He is married with 3 kids, she is single with a boyfriend. He doesn't believe in divorce, but is simply being a guy in that it boosts his ego when the girl gives him some attention. I think his wife realizes that he needs female reassurance, so she'll call him like 5 times throughout the day. Take the story for what's it worth.
If your husband needs his ego stroked or reassurance from a female, it should be coming from you. Send him sexy text messages when he is at work, telling him how much you want him when he gets home, and stuff like that. Make your man feel like a man, so that he will continue to come home to you.
Men are pretty simple, just ask any of them.
2007-08-21 11:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny isn't it that if it were a woman eating lunch with a man it's harmless, but a man eating lunch with a woman is uncalled for. They're eating lunch for God's sake. The time for worry is if they should decide to take it outside of the work place. Up until that time, don't place strain on your marriage with unfounded accusations. You may even wish to follow the advice of dore up there.
2007-08-21 11:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not normal but you might have to tolerate it. Especially if he was friends with her before you. Make sure to get close to this friend & make her yours too. Just in case there is any funny business going on. Arrange outtings for the 3 of you. Invite her into your home. I know, sounds weired. But just in case she is thinking of moving in on your territory, she might think twice if she has a connection with you.
Keep your friends close & your enemy closer.
2007-08-21 11:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by shellysd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I work for a police dept. for 20 years and all my friends were male. My husband will never be uncomfortable with that, because he trusts me and because I tell him everything. He knows everything about my friends. We also go get together every once and a while for dinner or something.
So you should definitely want to meet her and possibly become friends with a close friend in your husbands life.
2007-08-21 11:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No husband should be doing anything with another woman unless his wife is there with them.
They are having an emotional affair probably. You need to tell him to stop or to invite you along. His reaction to your wanting to come will tell you how serious their "friendship" is.
My husband did that to with a co-worker. I ended up with an STD and a broken relationship. Good luck!
2007-08-21 11:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking lunch may lead to other things but since you have allowed it to go on you would look petty trying to stop it now. Make sure it never progresses beyond lunch.
2007-08-21 11:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And it's not a good sign.
I would have a nice, un-blaming, un-finger-pointing, heart to heart. Explain how it gives the wrong impression and makes you feel. Give the positive feedback that you love him and want to be his best friend.
Make sure there are no unresolved hurts between the both of you. If all else fails, see a counselor together immediately.
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2007-08-21 11:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is sort of OK if they work together because the have the same lunch break time
BUT if they dont work together and they are planning on meeting then u have a problem!
keep your eyes and ears open!
2007-08-21 11:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by BRUINS #1 FAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋