I live in a very conservative (politically and socially) area. I am rather laid-back and liberal. I am finding it difficult to find a job, make friends and feel comfortable with service professionals (doctors, dentists, etc.) because the business climate is very cut-throat resulting (in my opinion) a living environment that is paranoid and non-trusting. Is there any hope? How does a mild mannered person like myself get along in this type of environment? I keep wanting to be friendly and trust people,, but this seems to be the opposite of how people behave here and how they expect you to behave.
Any suggestions?
2007-08-21 03:56:18 · 22 answers · asked by wittygee 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am in a political area myself and found the same thing you did. In fact my husband is a councilman for the city and I had to adjust. I had never liked being in the political world for your very reason. I didn't know if I could even have a trustworthy friend. This meant I had to find out about the different people and draw my own conclusions about what I thought was right.
After a while I began to enjoy the scene. When I learned you can be of service for the good of you city.
I know how you feel, but jump in and you will be comfortable in your area.
2007-08-21 04:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, I've never had that problem. perhaps it's just you're way of thinking. It's always hard to adjust to a new climate... but maybe you have made opinions of these people before you got a chance to really know them. Try spreading your cheer... Don't let politics and cut-throat business get in the way of who you are. Maybe by assuming they have a negative attitude, you are projecting a negative attitude yourself? The best advice I can give you- is be as kind to these people as you would like them to be. They might be surprised and take a liking to you laid back desposition.
2007-08-21 04:05:02 · answer #2 · answered by SKI THE EAST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Be sure about your feelings, are they true, may be you have a previsous situation that affects you, may be you like something in the place you are.
2. If not happy, decide to move and choose the location of your choice.
3. compare the places you got from 2. until you are happy with your decision.
4. Go, but, do not expect life to be easy, you will feel expatriate for some time until you make new friends.it will usually have problems, that's part of our life.
5. Good luck.
2007-08-21 04:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mahmoud Basha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the type of community you describe, and just curious, are you preaching to these people, judging them? or just being nice. In my oponion conservatives tend to be a lot more accepting than liberals. We tend to accept you have the right to make your own choices, the liberals I know are always trying to change me, preach to me or talk about how the world is so screwed up.
Just smile and talk about the weather and you will find it easier.
2007-08-21 04:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sly, back door approach to taking a stab at conservatives and as usual filled with the old liberal platitudes. Goodness, get a new play book or better yet, befriend a conservative....you'll learn something.
2007-08-21 04:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The world is what you make of it. A change in geography isn't going to make people like you. You are blaming society on your inability to make friends, when it is actually your narrow-minded and shallow perception of your local society that is preventing you from making friends. You will find that when you move someplace else, people won't like you there either.
You don't sound laid back at all. You sound very uptight.
2007-08-21 04:02:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you grow up you will stop smoking marijuana and begin to understand the real world and become more conservative. Then you will understand how the educated professionals feel when they see the illegals and losers sucking up all the resources and how their business are affected by those poor and huddled masses.
"A conservative is a liberal mugged by reality."
2007-08-21 04:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't give enough data about where you live ,your attachments to this place,or your job skills.
If its that bad and you have the finances then indeed move.To a place opposite of where you now live.
2007-08-21 04:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mogollon Dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a less cut throat town where there are more people like you or conform.
2007-08-21 04:06:39 · answer #9 · answered by Loli M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a different city
2007-08-21 04:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋