Is it normal to not file for divorce for two years already? The guy I'm with is saying that he's waiting for his ex to file because it was her decision to get a divorce. Plus he wants her to pay for it. Is the postponment normal?
2007-08-21 03:51:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, and furthermore it does not matter who files the result is the same. Divorce is divorce regardless of who files. There are other reasons why that are not on the surface. Fault is not determined nor do the circumstances change in court depending on who files. The division is the same and the results are the same. Maybe the guy you are with should seek some legal advice and move on with his life if that is what he really wants to do or he should stop listening to the sea lawyer's at the local pub.
2007-08-21 05:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was that interested in being divorced from his wife, he could have filed and had her pay for half of the filing/attorneys fees. If they are amicable about the divorce, the expense wouldn't be that much. My ex- and I split our fees and it was only $200 each,but we were getting along about it for our kids.
You should not be dating a man who is married even though they may be separated. He is putting off the divorce for a reason, perhaps he doesn't really want the divorce at all.
You would be best to leave him alone until he is divorced. Look for someone else who is available. You do not need to settle as someone's second best. They could have already been divorced a long time ago, if either of them was serious about it.
2007-08-21 11:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by philosophy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, If he really wanted out of the marriage he would pay, He could go down to Legal Aid if he wanted a cheap divorce and they could split the cost and make it cheaper. The only postponement is that at least one of them decided against it or they couldn't come to some type of agreement about something.
2007-08-21 11:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello!!! do you see the big red flag waving in your face? no, this is not normal at all and you're being a sucker. Not putting you down, but he is worth the time you're spending with him. After two years from his wife and he being a petty jerk about not paying for the divorce because she ask him. Then why did he move out? Two year is enough of time to save up paid for a divorce, that's if he really want to divorce his wife. Stop and think about it, lady. He is using you and you're to blind to see it? If he care enough to be with you then he should paid for it and move on with his life with you. If he still refuse to paid it and get it over, then you need to take a step back and re-think about being with this type of guy. please wake up, the big red flag is waving madly in the wind at you.
2007-08-21 11:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can be however he can file and it is up to the judge who pays for it. If he has more money no matter who files he will pay for it. At the best, they will each have to pay for their own lawyers..
2007-08-21 10:59:49 · answer #5 · answered by chris d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many unanswered questions to figure out what is really going on.
Why stick around for that? Could be drama lurking ahead. There are plenty of other guys out there, and if I were you, I would start looking...
2007-08-21 11:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I paid for mine.. it was only about 300. ... no kids or arguments. Either he's mighty broke or he's still playing games with her.
2007-08-21 11:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a catch! He wants her to pay for it, get rid of this loser... You can do so much better!
2007-08-21 11:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt pay for it either if it is her fault...
2007-08-21 11:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by amayseng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋