If your spouse cheats on you~ is it your fault or theirs?

Answer 1

There is never an excuse for cheating!

Answer 2

I know my husband would never do that to me because he knows what Gods word say's about it, and he would have to answer to God . I think that if someone cheats on their spouse it is their fault not the spouse. When you get married you are supposed to be with only that person.


I read some of the other answer and see that some people think it would the spouses fault. If something goes wrong in a marriage you are supposed to try and fix it not get divorced and not cheat on your spouse. If hubby did cheat or vise versea ( which I know he won't) it would be completely his fault no matter what I do.......he should be able to control him self and not use me as an excuse as to why he cheated .

Sorry if it seems like I am comming off strong on this I don't mean to be ...I just know what God say's about this.

Answer 3

There is no excuse for cheating.

If your spouse left you, then it might be your fault or theirs, but to cheat is to betray the trust that's at the core of every marriage.

Don't question whether the cheating was your fault, because it wasn't.

Answer 4

Who can untangle that "who shot John" blame game? I read we are all children emotionally. I guess the world is to blame, I always try to work on myself and share what works for me. I figure if I can fix myself, I can help others or else just myself. It's not until you can fix others that you get popular, can recognize unhealthy attitudes in others and not copy them, don't catch the latest bug or hate going around and the bad actors either don't see you or like you and act nice. People only do minimum work on themselves and think it's good enough. We sense we could do better and blame ourselves if something goes wrong. I suspect they must be more wrong, if you're that caring. Care about yourself and learn about the new mind shift of the 21st century that teaches you how to cope with everything with ease and come live in easy world, where everything is easy. They have an emotional problem in the sense that they can't reach the love in themselves and are looking for it outside, where it isn't. No intuition and no understanding of emotions makes Jack a dull boy, but it all can be learned and it's not really all that hard with all the new discoveries. Who'd want a spouse that doesn't know love anyway. I personally have compassion on them. I could help my spouse, but it's too late. See how everyhone relates. No one knows. We aren't taught in school, by parents or media, ignorance is at fault. Everyone ducking responsibility. Responsibility means responding, not blaming. If you can respond. No one can as no one knows how. You can learn or round and round it goes untill we break the cycle of ignorance. Notice the word ignore in there. We have to put out an effort. There are plenty of answers on Answers and plenty of people and a list of the questions they've answered.

Answer 5

Usually I would say it is the person who has cheated that it was their faults. but, if you go home to someone who is abusive, nagging, and other things that makes you nuts, then you would have to imagine-to some extent- why that person cheated in the first place. Some do it because they can't get enough. Some do it because they can't get any. Some do it because this is their "escape". It all depends on the couple, the relationship, how long has it been since they were in a relationship with each other.

Answer 6

Spouses that are emotional abusive, will try to blame you for what he has done.Will try to make you feel guilty to the point that you going to think is totally your fault the reason that he cheated on you.
But don't let that get in to you, because he knows what he is doing he is a grown man and he is responsible for his action, not you. So is 100% his fault. Remenber , always strong :)

Answer 7

How on earth can it be your fault when they're the ones that did it!
Dont go looking for reasons behind you're spouses cheating, and definitely dont go blaming it on yourself!
Its nothing to do with what you've done, or what you havent done for that fact!
The only person that should be blamed for cheating, is the person that actually cheated!

Answer 8

What kind of question is this? Of course it's theirs, there's no exuse any way that the spouse had an exuse to cheat. He or she should be a man or women and end the relationship then and there, go your seperate ways and do whatever the hell you want. But by no means should the spouse have any reason to cheat. There's alot of exuses to cheat but it takes a real man or real woman to end it. If my husband ever came to me and said i cheated because "You didn't talk to me right" or you whined to much" or your cooking sucks" do you see what i mean how silly is that. NO EXUSES!!!!

Answer 9

Theirs because there should not be anything that they want from the outside and there should not be anything that we can't come to agreement with and work on from the inside. If I am doing all that I can and what he wants and he is pleasing me, there is nothing that should be causing him to chase someone else. Now, if he is broken on the inside and has issues, then we need to go and those fixed together as a unit and we need to respect, love, encourage and grow in one another and if he cheats ----I am done....for good!!

Answer 10

Theirs.

Answer 11

Theirs.