How do you bring it to someones attention that they are the one that is selfish,?

Question

and that her selfishness is stressing everyone out. She spends all of her money on unnesersay things ,and fast food rather than buying groceries and paying her debts,resulting in her gaining weight and not having money for her bills.She cries to her daughter for money ,(she works two and three jobs and goes to collage),and has bills of her own.She also expects her boy friend to pay her debts,and he's in over his head with his own debts.She thinks that every body owes her and that they only think of only themselfs if they don't give her any money.How do I bring it to her attention she is selfish and stressing everybody out,with out hurting her feelings.

Answer 1

You let her fall on her butt and quit helping her so she can learn to manage her own life.

Answer 2

Don't lend her any money. If she's over 21, she's a big girl and needs to learn to grow up. Don't worry about what other people think. No matter what, she's going to get her feelings hurt.